2006-10-05 01:40:50 · 13 answers · asked by usmc2209 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats' kinda natural to still have feelings for your ex's especially if ya'll are still friends...but before you get married you need to really be sure that's what you want before you do it because personally, i believe that marriage is a one time thing that you need to be sure about b4 you do it. Soo you gat some thinking to do mister :)
2006-10-05 01:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you set your wedding so far in the future, is it because you still need time to make sure? Think carefully if you are marrying the right person. If Bethany rejected you or you found you were incompatible and you have no hope of resolving this, then the best thing is to try to forget her. Engagements are just that a thinking period not a vow before god. This is the time to make sure the vows you will takke are those you intend to keep the rest of your life.
2006-10-05 01:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who's been down the same road you are on, I can tell you that you had better slow things down in your life. I spent 4 1/2 years in a marriage that I knew was wrong, had a child with that person, got divorced, remarried and had a second child with my current wife and am now tremendously happy. However, it put me in a situation where I am now forced to deal with my first wife who lives 110 miles away and has custody of my daughter, and is a lousy mother. Believe me when I tell you that this isn't a picnic. Stop, think, make damn sure, or you may be in front of a judge in the state of California someday hashing all this out.
2006-10-05 01:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me why men consent to marriage with another woman when the are in love with someone else. You are going to enter into a life long marriage already knowing that she doesn't have all of your love. How fair is that? Reconsider your marriage for now, or at least put the love feelings for Bethany to bed for good., if you can't do that now, then don't get married until you can.
2006-10-05 01:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop!! You are neither ready or mature enough to get married. You should be marrying her because she is the one. Marriage is not something to try on like a pair of shoes. It can be the most exciting experience with the right person. Grow up and find the right girl before setting a wedding date.
2006-10-05 02:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dr. Phil is fond of saying "How's that working for ya?" I'm sure that your intended bride is upset about the situation. You might think that she doesn't know. However, let me tell you that women have a sixth sense about these things.
You have to make a decision which relationship is more important to you and pursue that one. If you get married with these feelings for your ex, your marriage will fail in short order.
2006-10-05 01:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ted H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then dont get married to this other person..if you still care about *bethany* then it will hurt whoever your marrying in the long run, because your love may be more focused on bethany and not her.
2006-10-05 01:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by *~Angel_Eyes~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you think that is fair to your present fiance'?...So your going to go through the whole wedding/family thing, and deep down you still love someone else?...How do you think your fiance would feel about that, and what would her parents think about that....Not a very manly mature thing to do, sorry....
2006-10-05 02:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question:
When I am 50 whose eyes do I want to be looking into?
2006-10-05 01:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you need to get your priorities straight.
How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
2006-10-05 01:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋