I am frustrated to the point of irrational action. I have a great apartment and for the most part a great roommate but she is very lazy. She doesn't clean up after herself, especially in the kitchen. She'll cook but leave the dishes, and when she does clean the dishes, she never ever ever wipes down the stove or counters!! And when she has in the past she uses a very wet, dirty cloth, so when it dries it leaves a dirty film. Also, she constantly leaves crumbs on the counters and coffee table (she eats in front of the tv). I've considered restricting the eating to the kitchen table, and even thought of telling her we have ants in order to subtly tell her to clean up her act, but I want to remain civil because in spite of all these things, she is a great roommate, and pays her share of the rent and bills on time. This is just one thing that bugs me so much since I am a very tidy person and I work two jobs. She's on disability and doesn't work at all...please help!!
2006-10-05 01:34:04 · 10 answers · asked by Rokunohe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Boy that's a tuff one cuz im dealing with the same situation except I live with three fat heffers who doesn't know the meaning of keeping things clean. I would talk to her about it and let her knwo hwo strongly you feel about keeping the house clean. I told my roomates that I didn't care what they did in their room but at least keep the common areas clean to avoid rats, roaches and the like. Tell her you don't want to sound like her mother but that's what needs to be done in order to keep the house a home!
2006-10-05 01:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same problem i was having. My roommates never wanted to take any responsibility even they were so nice that i could not even think of leaving them. First few days i had ignored the household works, but then i thought what if i were alone in the flat, in that case i have to do all the thing and also if i change the roommate i will not enjoy my life the way i am doing now. So i continued to do the work without uttering a word to them. But once i got ill, i thought they will do it now but invain. So i got up in severe illness and did all the work. They got demoralized and after that i have no complains with them. Means if your roommate is doing it unintentionaly, soon she will realize it. You just don't say anything to her.
Second approach you can take is opposite to this... Just talk to your roommate. The way you share the roomrent share the work also.
So ball is in your court now.
2006-10-05 01:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Aryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you could try but didnt work for me when I tried it - I lived in a house where there were 3 of us - 2 of us cleaned up the dishes but the other never did them at all - so the 2 of us got together and decided we would clean only our dishes and anything the 3rd person used we wouldnt touch - well needless to say we ran out of dishes eventually they were just stacking up on the side of the sink and bench tops and he didnt care at all - we had to basically put the hard word on him about doing them and it still really didnt help - some people are just lazy in that way however I have lived with people who have been much worse - I had to put up with drug use and even one really disgusting man who never flushed the toilet and when I would point it out to him (get this!) He blamed the cat!! I would say yeah the cat uses the toilet and even uses toilet paper!! SHEESH I had to boot him out though when I found his poo down the side of the fridge (this guy obviously had some serious issues) so your not that bad off if all you have to put up with is a few dirty dishes :)
2006-10-05 01:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time the place is a wreck and it's her fault, sit her down and tell her just what you said in your question. In fact why not make a copy of it for her. DON'T CLEAN UP AFTER THE SLOB! She is taking advantage of you knowing you can't stand it when things are not neat. She is doing what she wants to to and letting you take up the slack. You need to have a heart to heart talk and maybe even raise her rent each time she does this. If you have to clean up her mess, she owes you say $10.00 extra a month for each time you have to do it. There are other room mates that are as good AND have some respect for their surroundings. Godloveya.
2006-10-05 01:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her something like this..." you are very nice roommate I have never seen...you pay the bill on time...your character is so good...you understand me very well.. you have almost most of the things I need from a roommate..., I am really lucky to have you..." and tell her all other things she does right and all other things she proud of .........................................................................Then if could be able to clean up things in a way I like it... this I would really be more than lucky....I would really be blessed to have you.....(use a soothing voice. )
And when she does it once...thank her and give her hug...do this once In a while.
Good Luck.
2006-10-05 01:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Montel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's an exceedingly smooth concern even as it contains your perfect pal. yet in case you tell her that you do not anticipate issues to be completely ideal yet to in elementary words make some style of attempt no count number how small... even in simple terms putting the dishes in the sink is an exceedingly good commence. have a sit down with her and examine with her as a pal. if she takes offense to you saying you do not care about her room yet some thing of the homestead please positioned some style of attempt into it... aka the dishes... then she's no longer someone you want to stay with. why jeopordize your position to stay and safe practices deposit with her messiness?
2016-12-04 07:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by forester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say if you wont to be lazy go do it some where else but not here not in my house say I no you are my roommate but when you moved in i did not think you where so messy and then say you don't have to go home but you got to get the heck up out of hear don't let the door knob hit you where the god Lord hits you but try to say it in your own words and mack it sound nice and try to mack her under stand why you wont her out of you House tell her you need your space..................
2006-10-05 01:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grab her by the hair - and do what you you to when you potty train dogs... force her face into the mess and kick her azz... the lazy mutt..
2006-10-05 01:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new room mate.
2006-10-05 01:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put all her stuff on her bed and she will soon get the hint
2006-10-05 01:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by lady_luck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋