How do i get my mum to realise the man she's with has no intentions of leaving his wife,it's been 2yrs .

Answer 1

I think maybe you should sit down with your mum and try to have a proper conversation about this. Tell her your feelings and concerns on the matter and encourage her to think carefully about the situation she has placed the both of you in.

Your mum must love this man and unfortunately love is blind she may well believe him when he tells her that he will leave his wife, maybe he is giving your mother some excuses as to why he has not left her already.

You could drive a wedge between you and your mum if you force the issue or have rows with her about this so try to get her to open up about what she believes will happen with this man.

Some men do leave their wives and go on to have happy committed relationships with the person they have had an affair with although if two years have gone past it doesn't seem very likely.

My dad had an affair a long time ago and after a year left my mum, he dated the other woman for a short while in the same manner he did when they were having their affair, however he soon realised that he loved my mum and our family and ended this other relationship. After a few years of dating and counselling my parents got back together and have been happy and fully committed ever since. The 'other woman' has now since moved elsewhere and last I heard from a girl who knows her is happily married herself with two children.

Your mum needs to know that even though she might love this man deeply sometimes it is better to walk away especially when there are a lot of people who stand to get hurt from the fall-out and quite often walking away regardless of our feelings is the best thing to do.

No matter what happens, your mum will find a loving committed relationship be it with this man or somebody else. There really is somebody out there for all of us, we just simply need to look for them!

All the best, I hope no matter what happens you and your mum find happiness. She is very lucky to have a daughter who is concerned enough to look out for her.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You can't. Love isn't just blind - it's deaf and stupid, too. I knew a woman with a degree in science from a London University and she couldn't see the simple truth that everyone else knew in spades - her married boyfriend was never, ever going to give up the cosy domesticity of his marital home. (He didn't, either.) She was the spare shag and nothing more, and I trust youl'll pardon the vulgarity but your mother is in the same position. Telling his wife will just mean your mother will be dumped on, and hell hath no fury like a woman who has discovered her husband playing an away fixture. You could face him but he'll just think you're a smartarse kid. If you can, kick his head in. I would. If you can't, get photographs and blackmail the bastard.

Answer 3

The question to ask yourself is - is she happy now, if so do you want to shatter her happiness. I was in her situation but I was happy just to see him when I could and ignored all the whispers about what a fool I was because I was happy to have him in my life. He did eventually leave his wife when he felt the time was right and we have lived together very much inlove for the past two and half years. Let your mum make her own choices as you would no doubt want her to be the same toward you

Answer 4

Sometimes when people are in love, you can't make them see sense. I would say that the best thing you can do is support your mum and be there for her no matter what. If things go wrong then at least you are there for her. And if things go right, then she will be happ that you have stayed by her.

Hope that helps. It might hurt to sit by and watch her go down this path, but it would hurt her much more if she knew that you wern't there for her.

Answer 5

Sometimes we just have to let thing go, be there for her, support her, not her relationship.

Maybe this is something that she must see for herself, some people are like that, and no matter how we care for them there is nothing we can do to stop them from being hurt.

Answer 6

Tell the mans wife!

Answer 7

Maybe its something she needs to find out herself. Most people don't see what's right in front of them and gradually come around to the idea.

You could tell her but she may not listen.

Answer 8

I know you mean well and it upsets you to see your mum in this situation but her love life is really none of your business.

Answer 9

She has to see it for herself. She obviously loves the man and will not listen to reason. She will see soon enough.

Answer 10

try getting her to go out and meet other people. it doesn't always work when you're direct so you may have to set her up with a "stranger" that you know will treat her right.