In Marriage does violent behaviour have to have physical contact take place to be deemed violent behaviour?

Answer 1

Depends on who is doing the violence.

If he uses harsh language or anything more violent he's a "bastard" and gets carted off by the police for reacting after extreme provocation.

if she stabbs him asleep on the couch and pretends he hit her a few times she's a victim

Answer 2

No. You can violently abuse someone spiritually, "you are ugly!" "You are stupid" "you will never survive without me" No physical contact but devestating long term results. You can violently financially abuse someone, My husband would tell me I had to pay all bills because he did not have money and then I would be too broke to leave him another month, cause I have kids. Over time these non physical things will make your stomach produce more acid causing reflux, and hiatal hurnias. This will cause migrain headaches, this will cause anxiety even. without treatment a woman or man in this position can actually die. It is a very slow and painful death. I had bleeding ulcers so bad I could not keep any food down for months. I lost so much weight my doc got scared. All of this and he never laid a finger on me. Because there are no bruises for anyone to see, no one believes the victim so the victim becomes more afraid. Not of what has happened but of what will happen. They will not sleep sometimes for days because they never feel safe. They always think everyone is judging them. They are constantly looking over their sholder and it is bad because if the abuser is smart enough to never do it in front of others then even the victim will question his own sanity along with everyone else arround them. This happens every day to millions of women all over the world. Some women do acvtually die from stress. Is any act comited by a spouce against the other that leads to illness, loss of emotional well being and sometimes even death an act of violence? Many people do think so.

Answer 3

My opinion--bottom line--yes. But any of the others can be just as bad and sometimes worse--long term. An attorney could probably make it into violent abuse although there is no physical contact.

Answer 4

No. Verbal abuse, emotional abuse, abandonment, intimidation, yelling, withholding affection, denying access to financial resources, cruel humor: there is a long list of things that are "violent" in a human relationship. If you are suffering from anything like this, please go and get help. Find a counselor. Talk about your feelings. Make a plan and have support from people you trust. Every human being deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. Period.

Answer 5

Violient behaviour can take many forms - physical, mental, pyschological etc. Physical contact does not have to occur for the violence to be considered "physical".

And, by the way, marital status has nothing to do with it.

Answer 6

No I've had 2 violent marraiges
hubby no 1- was physical he :

tried to strangle me

raped me

kicked me in the stomach at 7 months pregnant

Left me to bleed to death

and lots of other stuff




hubby no 2 was emotional :

Wanted a baby then wanted me to get rid

Kept leaving and coming back-when baby was 2 weeks old-and I'd had C-Section

Screamed at me all the time

Left me on the dual carraigeway

Tried to snatch my baby

Would only let me on Ebay if I asked

Would insist on driving me everywhere

Wanted to do it with the window open so other people could hear


Wanted to do it a week after C-Section hassled me


Would always cause a row if I rolled over in bed -he would say I was ignoring him-and If he came in and I was busy he would expect me to stop what I was doing and give him a cuddle

Was so possesive of the baby he screamed at me cos I was gonna feed her but he wanted to-refused to let me hold her when she was sick.

Told me to stop breastfeeding cos he wanted me for himself.


the list goes on

Out of both hubbies no 2 was the worst-I was only with him for a year.

Answer 7

I would think that violent verbal behaviour would also count, as emotionally it can be very threatening. I think I would cope better with someone throwing something at me than threatening to kill or harm me. Any violence and you need to get out if you can and encourage them to get help

Answer 8

I'd say no, of course you could get it where things are launched at high speed around the room but it's still violent even without the hitting.

Answer 9

NO ... abuse can take many forms.

physical abuse - physical contact causing injury ranging from mild bruising to broken bones and/or damaged organs.

mental abuse - (see terrorism) intimidation through fear ranging from deprivation to browbeating and screaming to demean the victim

emotional abuse - consistent demeaning, demoralizing, denigrating to instill low self esteem, helplessness, and dependence in the victim.

these are all forms of violence, they all increase fear and make the victims dependent or unable to function normally.. whether the violence is physical or psychological, its all destructive.

Answer 10

No there is also emotional abuse. When your spouse consistently calls you out of your name or degrades your looks, personality, etc....remember the word consistently just because a couple gets on a fight and this happens doesnt mean emotional abuse.... it is said out of anger.