Situation-- My hubby is no longer interested in having sex with me and has started to buy me gifts. (unusual) He is always at work or at home. I know cause we share a car, and I do deliveries where he works. Could he still find time somehow? It really seems unlikely, but something is not right! He is 35, lost his libido maybe? I am 29 and in my peak so it sucks bad for me.
2006-10-05 01:13:00 · 25 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him tons of love, admiration and respect.
If he isn't cheating, it will work.
If he is cheating he will stop.
2006-10-05 01:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is on medication for hypertension or cholesterol, or even some depression medicine cause erectile dysfunctions. If none of the above, then something else is going on. Maybe not the affair that your thinking but depressed, due to having to share a car, being taking to work by you, always at work and at home. This would depress me, some men need to feel that they are working for something. Sometimes we can be a little selfish and need some toys to help us through the day to day routines. See what he has a desire for, take him car shopping or motorcycle shopping, whatever, I'm sure you get the point. It is not you sweetie, your a very attractive lady.
You could always try to spice up the bedroom activities by buying some erotic items.
I'm sorry your having to work at this so hard, but I feel if you try one of the above, things will improve. Good luck.
2006-10-05 01:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am well was in the same place you are. The only differents is I am 35. He started acting funny and then sex went away and I have asked him is it me, or someone else, or do you need help. All he said was I don't have the answers. So I got curious and started looking for answers and I found a cell phone bill of 441.00 where he has ben talking to his ex. I hope this is not the case with you.Now I am starting from ground zero with two boys......
I wish you Lots of Luck.
Always Amy
2006-10-05 01:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could possibly be cheating, but given what you've said - I'm not sure that he would find the time, but it's always a possibility. It could be something medical like blood presure too. High blood pressure can cause a lack of a sex drive. I would talk to him about it, and if agrees there's a problem and doesn't know what it is, push him to see a doctor, but you might also keep tabs on him to eliminate the cheating - good luck!
2006-10-05 01:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by misskris1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons for this maybe its coz of saying "NO" too much then he finally gets tired of beging
You should try to read signals from the gifts -what kind of gifts is he giving what is he trying to say indirectly.
I think u should also just confront him n talk things out with him it'll really get a weight off ur chest.
I wish u the best of luck
2006-10-05 01:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katy is it possible that with stress at work he is having trouble satisfying you or he may be tired after work or is he possibly unwell and the gifts are a way of apologizing for his lack of intimacy. The fact that you have lost trust in your man is a bit of a concern though . sit down and just ask him what is the problem is it you or him and what do the pair of you need to do to put that pzazz back into your love lives . I hope its not another person and to me it sounds like its not but you need to work it out with your guy Katy good luck .
2006-10-05 01:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say if he's cheating or not. you should try and talk to him about his changing sex drive. Don't push because this could be a very sensitive topic if he really is having problems. The gift thing is a little odd though. Talking is the only way to get to the bottom of this.
2006-10-05 01:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Coax it out of him when he feels comfortable with you, not by forcing or hounding him. Thank him for the gifts. Maybe he has just recently been promoted, and the offset is too much work. Again, talk to him about this in a non-patronizing manner.
2006-10-05 01:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by jarod_jared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he may be seeing somebody at work?
For him to no longer be interested in sex is strange for a man. Does he show other signs like showering as soon as he comes in from work?
2006-10-05 01:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's discovered something new about his sexuality? Or, trying to come to terms with it? Might be a little bored, but under those circumstances, cheating would be the last thing I'd suspect.
2006-10-05 01:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does suck The same thing happened to me.I looked good then too.My husband had a silent drinking problem and depression and eritile disfunction. It is someting for a doctor to check out.
2006-10-05 01:17:52 · answer #11 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋