just want to get an opinion on weather it's best to speak your mind or be a hypocrate an dpretent to like everyone?
2006-10-05 00:56:36 · 20 answers · asked by S 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's better to speak your mind than to pretend. If you say you don't like me, i wouldn't care a bit but i would have appreciated your straight-forwardness. I would have hated you if you pretend to like me. In fact i would feel much better since came out straight without hiding your feeling.
2006-10-05 01:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by The Inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There cannot be a sensible yardstick, since each situation is unique in itself, and the treatment to the very same person could differ depending on the situation !
But basically, not liking a person is in itself a negative feature, though liking does not compel or warrant any action, nor a dislike impose abstention of action/friendly gesture.
Take the case of diplomats of two enemical countries meeting at a international forum ! They would hardly speak out their dislikes. And irrespective of personal disposition, one diplomat is 'obliged' to take offence to uphold his dignity, if no other worthy matter is found objectionable. Such is the politics!
2006-10-05 08:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are those the only two choices? 1) to speak your mind and tell me you hate me, or 2) to pretend to like me, and be a hypocrite..?You left out another option, which would be to be pleasant just for the sake of consideration toward another human being.
You don't have to like me- you are not going to like everyone- but there is no reason not to be polite. That's not being a hypocrite, it's just good manners, and is a reflection of what kind of person you are. In the past when people have not liked me, I would wonder why- but would not dwell on it. If they got in my face, I would tell them to resolve their own issues so they could function in society.
2006-10-05 16:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd always rather know the truth about how people feel. I don't need to spend time with people who just pretend to like me, I'm better than that. Having said that, there is a way to communicate that you dislike someone without being a d*ck about it. I hate it when people say "I just tell it like it is, I don't sugar coat anything." To me that is code for "I'm a rude, abrasive jerk who never learned how to properly speak to people." You can get your point across without all of that.
2006-10-05 09:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we are free to dislike a person, but not to disrespect by telling it bluntly or openly. We must understand that a person is much more than just our likes or dislikes, irrespective of how justified we think we are.
But we don't have to pretend as though we like a person even when we actually dislike. Human beings are blessed with the ability to deliver messages indirectly and such messages actually get better delivered.
Unpleasant truths are not told nor written, but they are conveyed nevertheless, thanks to the sensitivity and sensibility of human beings.
2006-10-05 08:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not be offended if you said you didn't like me. We are all individuals with different morals and ethics, being individuals makes us liked or disliked. I'd rather have someone be honest and straight forward then dance around the matter and pretend to like me. My favorite saying is, "I'd rather be hated for who I am, than liked for who I'm not."
I am the type of person you either like or hate. I tell it like I see it, if it hurts your feelings I'm sorry but it's the truth. If you feel I am too blunt, sorry but I am not here to please you. That is how I go about life, gains me respect of others because my integrity is never in jeopardy.
Speak your mind!!! ;)
2006-10-05 08:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I may wonder for a half a second what caused you to dislike me, having never met I would assume you based your shallow opinion on my avatar. But, I know your just asking a hypothetical question here, either way I really wouldn't care one way or the other. It depends on the situation and the circumstances, as to whether or not you should pretend to like someone. I would probably pretend to like my boss, my brothers new wife, or someone I was selling a car to. But I would never pretend to like someone that I was going to pay to do something, or someone who has the hots for me, or some jerk at a party. I wouldn't pretend to like our president, unless they were listening, then fearing for my life I would have nothing but nice things to say about him!.
2006-10-05 08:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by firedup 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I might feel a little hurt, like I did something wrong, but if you are not rude about it I'll get over it just fine. If you are rude about it and specially if you say something in person it will affect me a bit more.
2006-10-05 10:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by haiku_katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know not everyone likes me and I dont like everyone either...and thats fine...But if you are in a professional environment, than you still need to be nice to people or it may hurt your career not to be. Besides, its not like you have to hang out with these people...just be civil.
2006-10-05 08:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by pritty_princess_c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill give you a quote by Ayn Rand, "It is not advisable, [James], to venture unsolicited opinions. You should spare yourself the embarrassing discovery of their exact value to your listener."
i react, but i don't just go ahead full force and tell someone that i don't like them. i show them by my body language...is that a form of hypocrisy? i do not think so. my reactions are always simple to understand and the choice depends on the one reading my reactions.
and if you told me that you dont like me and we aren't friends, then i won't particularly care. i can't please everyone...you either accept who i am or not. your choice to make not mine.
2006-10-05 14:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by abstemious_entity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋