ive been with my boyfriend for 9 years and we both still love each other.my only problem is that he admires other girls right in my face.I think i deserve some respect, atleast when im around pretend not to look.he says theres no harm in looking.what do you think?
2006-10-05 00:33:51 · 16 answers · asked by seylmail 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is disrespectful...
talk to him about it...
its one thing if he glances on his own time, that is harmless, but doing it right in front of the person he is with is just flat out mean.
2006-10-05 00:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is an easy one. Don't fret, looking at other women is just what men do. It's natural, men and women are different in that aspect. When women are dateing a guy, they focus only on that guy, and when guys are dateing a woman, they like to look around to see what's out there. As long as he doesn't actually act on it, there's no harm in looking at other women. But if he ever does react on it, that's when you should dump him. I wouldn't try to read too much into it. It's normal for men to look around, and as long as he only has sex with you, I don't see any harm in looking. It's like the old cliche says, you can look, but you can't touch. So don't read too much into his roaming eyes, because if you do, it could only cause arguements, which could make him want to break up with you. Jealousy isn't a good thing in a relationship. So when he does it, and you're around try looking away and pretend like you didn't see it. He could be the real thing, and you don't want to lose him, if he is the one.
2006-10-05 00:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by danielle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any harm in looking at the opposite sex, the harm comes in if he is only looking at other women and not paying you any attention at all. Is that what's going on. If so, he really isn't showing you the respect you deserve. Try admiring a male in his presence and see how he reacts. Sometimes what's good for the goose is also good for the gander.
2006-10-05 00:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to look but not touch, he should at least try to act like he's not looking and if he gets caught (and even if he doesn't get caught) he should at least compliment you sincerely by saying something like she is pretty, but no where near as pretty as you, or something to that effect. It is rather insensitive to be checking out other women with your woman standing right next to you. But I have to admit that all men check out people of the opposite sex. most of us men don't mean anything by doing that, it's just a biological thing. Best of luck to you and yours.
2006-10-05 00:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly dont think it is right...he is with you + has been for nine years so all eyes should be on you!....i think give him a taste of his own medicine that way it might stop him fro doing it.....if he complains to you about it then just say exactly what he said "theres no harm in looking!"....he wont like it but will understand where you are coming from.....
good luck
x.niks.x
2006-10-05 00:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by lil niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him I agree, there is no harm in looking and then ogle every good looking guy I saw and right in front of him too. He can dish it out then he better be prepared to take it.
2006-10-05 01:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
staring is wrong but a quick glance or so is harmless..we all look at people and not always for the wrong reasons,we just do..what he is doing i don't agree with because he owes you a little respect..but some people are beautiful and as a american male i look but i don't stare!
2006-10-05 00:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say a man is dead if he stops looking. That may be but it is disrepectful to do it while you are with him, not to mention rude, inconsiderate, selfish, sleasy, licentuous and letcherous. I would give him an ultimatum. "Stop it while I'm out with you or I'm out of here,permanently." You have to be prepared for his answer
2006-10-05 00:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats so bad with hem looking as long as he does not touch or act on it??but if it does make fell bad or feel lack of respect just sit hem down and talk to hem if he loves you he will understand
2006-10-05 00:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by jem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same thing he does and see how he likes it. Talk about lack of respect for you.
2006-10-05 00:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋