Relationships with a large age difference?

Question

Say there is an 18 year old and they wanted to get married to a 43 year old what would your views be on that? is it right wrong, please give reasons if poss? thanks xx

Answer 1

what eva makes the 18 year old happy my dad married a woman that is 29 and he is 45 i no not quite so big age gap but still 16 years and they are happy

Answer 2

The only view I would have on this, is that at the age of eighteen, most young women look for more of a Security within an established (if any) 43 year old man, though Love may be there, as you get older, you will change, your thought process, and so may his, it really depends on the couple, I'm not saying this is wrong, because age should not matter, but I do believe that as this person matures, so do their ideals. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I do think at 18 it is too soon to be thinking of marriage, regardless of age. You should establish yourself first (career, finances, etc.) But once you have matured and grown as a person, if you think it's ok who cares what everyone else thinks? I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.

Answer 4

Yes it IS wrong and I will tell you why… if you were older by about 7 years or so and then still had the same age difference. Go ahead. But the fact of the matter is this. You are literally in 2 different worlds. He has lived life and has experience in stuff and how to deal with adult situations. YOU on the other hand are just starting out and have minimal experience in life. To tie yourself down now would be a shame. You need to date people. Get out and have lots of different experiences in order to TRULY know what you want. I know you think you know that now. but simply cannot be true. You both have entirely different interests no matter what you are saying. .. you may be mature but you in fact are still a child. Him as an adult should be man enough to understand that. If a girl came up to me and expressed her interest in me. I simply would tell her to look me up in a few years if she is still interested.

Answer 5

I would say in most cases this will not work out in the long run. There are too many difference's between that wide an age group. You and the other person would most likely have vastly different ideas on everything. I am not saying it can't work out but it would be very difficult. There is nothing (in my opinion) wrong with the age difference just that is would be harder then most relationships.

Answer 6

it aint wrong but u have to take alot of things into consideration. like in 10 years time will u still want the things he wants would u want to go out and will this make him feel insecure. look at the pros and cons before rushing into a marriage with an age gap that big

Answer 7

Are you Chinese?
This is not a racist question as I am living in China and the women here prefer men much older than them.
Personally, they think I am strange because my wife is my age.
I think it is hard in the UK. because of the phrase" cradle-snatcher".
Love is love, no matter the age difference.

Answer 8

I think they should wait til the 18 yo has turned at least 25. You are still developing in your teens and are not mature enough to make a big commitment.

Answer 9

It's neither right or wrong, in the moral sense. It is, however, something that would be hard to make work in a practical sense. In this society, the generation gap would make it hard for them to establish commonality.

Answer 10

A 25 year difference, quite a gap! You probably need counselling on this, as your youth full outlook would be compromised by a older person.