how can i emotionally blackmail someone with out it looking like blackmail? i need some good tactics. it's my boyfriend i'm trying to do it on as he deserves it alot
2006-10-05 00:09:45 · 19 answers · asked by tanj_maria 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dont sink to his level hun - you'll only belittle yourself and end up looking as bad as him.
Rise above it - the best form of hurting someone it to cut them dead - ignore him completely. xx
2006-10-05 00:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional blackmail is used as a weapon of control when someone close in your life uses things like, fear, obligation and guilt to manipulate you.
It is the person using this tatic that needs help for their insecurities, jealousy, act of vengance etc.
However, it is not healthy for any relationship for one person to use emotional blackmail on another. I been through this and sometimes its difficult to recognise that emotional blackmail IS a form of psychological and emotional abuse. Its not about love for the person your emotionally abuseing its about control and more about their needs and wants. They (the abuser) wants to be in control of a situation or even your life by restricting you in certain aspects of it.
Please take time to look at several websites and books and you will be able to recognise some of the tactics used. Let your partner know (because he may not recognise the damage he's doing) that you are aware of what he's like and you are not going to put up with this kind of behaviour. You have the right to do what you want in your life and you have your own opinions to, which of course might not always be agreeable with theirs, but remember your still an individual and your not owned by anyone...even if in a marriage.
Try not to stoop to his level as it will only probably make matters worse, but if you do feel you have to 'fight fire with fire' so to speak, then do so, but also let him see that whatever he says or does doesnt bother you the same now. The best tatic you can ever have is not giving into it because he will only try and gain even more control over you if you let him.
Emotional blackmail is not about real love, its about control and he needs to recognise that to.
2006-10-05 08:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by snogger18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a solid relationship you are in. whats going on with the world?
If he's that bad you have to blackmail him should you really be with him?
Dont rush out just yet for your wedding dress girl. If your into blackmailing men you'll only ever be the bridesmaid and never the bride.
Good luck girl, you need it!!
2006-10-05 07:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by MadDonna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant. You will always end up looking small and petty and b i tchy. Sad but true.
Make him dead to you. Pretend he doesn't exist. Seriously. Just walk by him, ignore him, if he talks to you, act like nothing is there. Dont give him a second glance.
That will sting more than anything else. Even the negative attention from blackmail.
2006-10-05 07:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest love I really wouldn't bother. Chances are you will feel cr*p about it later, he wont really give a sh*t. Generally, even if you feel like he deserves it now, its much better to hold the moral high ground. That way in the long run you will be the winner anyway.
2006-10-05 07:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Do some heroin? It's less damaging to your soul than being that person and you'll at least be happy. Want to punish your boyfriend? Be a better person. Want to really punish him find a better person. Want to justify your boyfriend's behavior be a typical bitter woman. If you really want to vindicate his bad deeds let him catch you being a huge vengeful b!tch and leave you for some other girl over it.
2006-10-05 07:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its obviously not worth being with someone that can't communicate and express the way the feel and therefore have to resort to blackmailing.....
2006-10-05 07:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by Quintus T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from anyone who'll cause you to act sick.you will just regret anything you do to him. time will take care of him what goes around always comes around so no matter what he's done to you if you do something back you guys will be in a never ending cycle of payback and revenge. let it go.
2006-10-05 07:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a relationship like that once and it deteriorated from bad to worse coz weren't communicating just trying to see who can hurt who most in theory.......It was a bloody mess.
2006-10-05 08:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sod emotional black mail... Nail a kipper to the underside of his bed and accuse him of cheating on you when you are next round there... And that you can even smell it...
2006-10-05 07:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋