long story short, this girl i had a crush on for like 2 years is getting married, i never acted on the crush but blah blah, the guy she is marrying is a "total" version of the bad guy / whatever. He cheats on her - then says sorry of course - is in the army and hardly ever sees her, and is trying to be the "man" of the family, dont get a job / whatever i will take care of it. In 5 years i can see him with another girl and her her with 2 kids living with mom. I think she just gets lonley and wants someone, and i dont know if she thinks marriage is the anwser i don't know, shes 19 btw. I think its very stupid, its not even my crush as much that i dont want her to get married, buut i can see the outcome of how its going to turn out. (why would you ever marry someone that cheated on you i have no idea). Well what would be my best approach here? i have her phone number? but how should i bring it up / talk about it ? i dont want to bash him or anything, thanks
2006-10-04 23:10:10 · 8 answers · asked by aaaaa4857376237 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Confess to her. It needs courage to do that and I believe you have it. Also let her know that the guy she is marrying isnt the right guy or maybe she would be wise if she reconsidered her thoughts on marrying the guy or maybe just wait for some more time. Then its upto her to decide. Be sincere and honest.
2006-10-04 23:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by ash_m_79 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can talk to her. But you should be careful not to sound like a jealous person. Try to be logical, caring and sensitive about the matter so that she may change her mind but if she really loves this person that you are talking about then you can't do nothing about it though he is a jerk. Love is sometimes like this.
She might know every thing after she married him....
2006-10-05 06:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE IT ALONE , IF SHE ALREADY SAID YES TO THIS MAN LET HER BUMP HER OWN HEAD . SHE GROWN JUST BE THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEED A EAR OR A SHOULDER SHE JUST MIGHT REALIZE SHE MADE A BAD CHOICE BUT IF YOUR THE ONE THAT IS THERE FOR HER SHE WILL LOVE YOU FOR THAT JUST DON'T TRY TO PUSH UP ON HER IN HER TIME OF NEED UNLESS SHE INITIATES IT . BE THE GOOD GUY AND BE THERE FOR HER , IF THE MARRIAGE DOESN'T WORK YOU COULD BE THE ONE TO REAP THE ONE TO REAP THE REWARDS . BE A FRIEND AND BE HAPPY FOR HER
2006-10-05 06:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by bonifiedelegance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to tell the truth(if what you're saying is truth, not the jealousy in you) to the ones you love. if you tell her she might not want to believe it and resent you for telling this. so if you're doing it for her sake, tell her. if she's not plain stupid she'll eventually realize what is happening and what you tried to warn her about and may be she'll come around. if you're doing this for you, so you two could couple up then don't, cause it probably won't work.
2006-10-05 06:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
common man, if you really love her and you want to be wth her and you know tht you will b there for her you shld pick up your phone and tell her you want to meet her. When you meet her, take a deep breath and tell her everything, eventhough she rejects you, atleast in the future you know tht you have told her tht you love her, without telling her you will regret it all your life....BE A MAN AND FACE IT....TELL HER YOUR FEELINGS.....
2006-10-05 06:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, STAY OUT of this! It is not your business, and if you do say something....and they stay together, you will be the 'bad' guy and will be out a possible friend.
2006-10-05 06:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late waited too long say hi go to the wedding say nice thing tell her if she needs ANYTHING you will be there . then just be friends and be there
2006-10-05 06:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take my advice never act on a crush....they end up being a disappointment!
2006-10-05 06:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by USuck79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋