I don't have any mental health issues at all, but when I meet people who are of a similar age, I seem to feel so far behind. I know my past has been very insecure, but I feel I have so much 'catching up' to do. Need I worry?
2006-10-04 22:25:58 · 18 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Please don't because I am 37 and have been saying ever since can remember "I must grow up" I haven't yet. I live in a Pollyanna world and am happy here, yes I to had a very dodgy background.
I still play Nintendo, watch CBBC and I even ended up working in a kindergarten, where the children are convinced I'm not an adult.
Even the parents are surprised when I tell them my age. I do look young and am sometimes embarrassed about myself, but at the end of the day it is me, not me pretending, I am young, my brain is young, my body is young, it's just the years are out of sync. Anyway soon like elderly parents we'll be old enough to act like a kid again, so why bother.
2006-10-04 22:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No.. don't worry...... you've made the first step already... you've reflected on your life and know where the problems are... for you personally. We are all individuals.. don't compare yourself... be content with the person you are and the unique experiences you've had... no matter how good or bad, there's always something to be learnt. We are all learning.. no matter what age we are, don't be fooled into thinking everyone is "secure"... we all have insecurities in some form or another.
Be happy with the person you are... if you're not happy then change the perception of yourself. Do what you have to, to increase your self perception.. ie build up your confidence.
You seem to answer your own query by stating "much catching up to do". I hear you say "I'm living life.. I'm going to enjoy life... I'm going to learn new experiences and be the person i am".. it's all coming through in your question.
So what you waiting for????
2006-10-05 00:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecure past absorbs a lot of energy which normally grown people use for self development.But there are no illegal beings under the sun.Everybody is free to make something better from personal self, from personal fate.It is an life's option.When started it is some kind of never ending story. No one can reach the point of total self fulfilment but stepping forward gives a feeling of joy. When the process of self development is the matter of hearth then it is OK. Otherwise to satisfy others any effort is superfluous and leads far from target.You can try to consult A Manual for Living (A Little Book of Wisdom) by Epictetus.
Be cautious.Developing intelligence increases joy of life but also opens hearth more to suffering. What makes intelligent people different from common people are their experience of joy (which is stronger) and suffering (lasting shorter).
2006-10-04 23:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by oceangleam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothin to catch up on, it's an infinite cycle of ****-talking. You'll gain alot more insight sorting out what your own insecurity is based on, what ever it is, it can't be that important that it has affected your well being. You can be far behind at anything you don't practice, question is, do you really need it or have you really had time for it. All depends on what you want from life. Company is nice and it passes the time, but it really puts you further away from whatever it is you're working towards.
2006-10-04 22:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by bavwill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a bit! If you feel there are issues from your past to deal with, you can work on them bit by bit.
In the meantime, you can look at the "mature" people and KNOW that they have their problems too - everyone does. Just because someone can talk the talk very well, doesn't mean they walk the walk as well as you think.
You're probably no worse than anyone else!
2006-10-04 22:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not need to worry.
Those people you see who are your age are more than likely feeling and thinking the same as you but can hide it better.
What is wrong with being emotional I think it shows maturity and also that you are a human being if you can be emotional some poor souls find that so difficult to do and wish they could be.
As for psychologically mature let me tell you a secret even the smartest man/woman on the planet are not that mature it is usually the intelligent ones that let go have a wild,silly and fun side.
The trick is to know who you are and what you are and be comfortable with that first and foremost.
2006-10-05 01:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometime I feel the same way, and I have realize the cause for me was I was running away from my fears of social interaction or confrontations with others. Now that I know my weakness I can improve on it. You never growup it you keep running away. Life is so much sweeter when you confront your fears. Remember to ask questions and learn about what you are running from, it makes it easier to confront when you know what you're up against.
Questions are the answer!
2006-10-05 00:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by bs_batman_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy yourself. Most of those 35 year olds who you think are 'mature' probably all wish they felt and acted young again as well.
I'm 30 and I still go nightclubbing every week, watch WWE wrestling and travel abroad with spare cash as much as I can.
As long as you're enjoying life thats all that really matters.
2006-10-04 22:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Adrenaline Rush™ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to watch people who you would like to be like, learn from them and see how they handle situations.
ask your friends for advice but do not become reliant on them, tell them how you feel and ask them for their advice. If they are good friends they should be happy to help.
Take you time, if you have had difficulties in the past then give your self time and read lots of self help books, these can be very useful.
good Luck
2006-10-04 22:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by michelle a 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I won't answer this because I was holding my breath until I turned blue!
lol But seriously...I do understand... and hey Peter Pan is my hero! Oh I have to say I am 47 and I hope I never get too mature!
being grown up- ain't all its cracked up to be!
BE YOU and you will attract a fun person who appreciates you-Di
2006-10-05 00:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by admiredi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋