I'm 25 years old, and have been dating the same girl for 5 years now. We recently moved in together for the first time. We are not engaged, but marriage is imminent. I recently began law school, and life is very hectic.
Recently, I have begun to feel neglected. She is not supportive of me at all. She acts like school should be easy, and I should never complain. Our sex life is nonexistent. I go to class, study, and we basically ignore each other.
I feel like its time for me to make a move. I feel like I could do better, but I'm hesitant because I've been with her so long and it's way easier to just shut up and stay with her. Any suggestions?
2006-10-04 21:51:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You probably CAN do better. Its normal that u grow apart. U need to do it while u are not married yet
2006-10-04 21:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Charles, I think it's time to pack the duds and go. You definietly need someone in your corner with dealing with law school. When the thoughts come into your mind that you could do better, then it's way past time.
You said you were hesitant too, because you have been with her for so long. What happens if you end up getting this girl pregnant, and then you are going to have deal with a major problem that last a lifetime. Cut your losses, and get out while the complications are small.
Both a man and woman need to be with someone, who supports them physically and emotionally. You need that take your breath away kind of a love. Curl your toes when you kiss...so, it's not fair to you to settle, and it's not fair your girlfriend either. If you make the break, both of you can start the search for the "right" one. Good luck in law school, and please think about I said, it's better to go now, then later, It's easier to stay and be quiet, but it's going to start effecting you more and more. Your emotions will start hurting you physically. Depression can hurt your body in so many ways-along with your mind. So, before you suffer any more damage, pack the cloths and go, find someone who can make all those dreams come true for you......
God bless us all.......
2006-10-05 01:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is very important for any realtionship
Before you decide to move talk to her and find out where the problem is and as well let her know what you desire when you are schooling
You may reach a consensus that makes the whole move in quite bearable
Dont give up this soon seeing that you have stayed together for like 5years wow thats awesome
2006-10-04 22:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by rdida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for u to start communicating with her and find out what it is that's on her mind that's bothering her. She could be resenting the fact that u are now in law school and furthering yourself. Or maybe she feels as though u are so involved with your studies that u are neglecting her in the process. Without knowing u or your situation, it's hard to give answers and the best anyone can give are guesses. At any rate, if she doesn't want to be in the relationship any longer, there's no point in hanging on to it yourself.
2006-10-04 22:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you waste your life being miserable? Life is too short and you only go around once. Make the most of what is given to you. If you are feeling this way 5 years into the relationship then you definately need to step back and think if this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. You do not want to wake up one morning when you are in your 60's and say that you wasted your life, then it will be too late. good luck with your decision.
2006-10-04 22:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation will affect on your grades, it's hard to get distracted with many things while you have study ,if you are living in an environment that you dont feel comfortable in ,you better find a solution ,talk to her ,show her that you need support ,otherwise you should think what is the best for you and not for both of you.
2006-10-04 21:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by borz_f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you have stated, you should move on! Based on what you have stated, what is there for you to stay for?
Yes, you feel comfortable with her in spite of the down side! You sound like a Nester! And that's a good thing with the right person!
2006-10-04 22:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and make a decission though giving up on this affair of 5 WHOLE YEARS IS definitely a waste...do u know that not even marriages last as long as that these days?
2006-10-04 22:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts, end the relationship now; you have grown apart, if it is bad now what will you build a marriage and children on? Get on with your life, you will find better.
2006-10-04 21:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty bad(sounds like you're already married). Try this though, move out of your place for awhile and see how she reacts.
2006-10-04 22:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Wyvante 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋