2006-10-04 21:50:05 · 17 answers · asked by Sooz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thinking it and knowing it are two different things, You found One theatre ticket yes,? surely if it had been with another woman he would have two, and why leave it around for you to find. Men know women go through ther wallets, so why would he leave it there?. Well two explanations, one he has nothing to hide and probably just wanted a night out with a bit of culture alone. The second is if he is having an affair then he may want to tell you, this is his way of doing it without coming straight out with it, he may have wanted you to fine it, he may have had a weak alibi on purpose, I detect trust issues already here before this incident, you going through his wallet and checking his alibi are not the actions of a trusting relationship. has he ever given you reason to not trust him? If not maybe your lack of trust is driving him away. There are so many questions with not a lot of information to really give an accurate answer . sorry.
2006-10-04 21:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Help! What do you want us to do?
Sorry.. can't help much.. this is a toughie... all you can have are our own thoughts that are based upon our knowledge and experiences...you need to be strong.. confront him... ask him outright... explain that you have never lied and deceived him and that you want to be treated with same respect that you have always given him...
After that be prepared for bad news and have a plan of action formulated... don't get mad.. get even..
Tell him to get out, or you get out, and give yourself time to calm down and work things out in your head...
If you have never had any suspicions he will feel very self assured and will convince himself that he can continue to get away with this even though he promises otherwise... Men always lie.. tyrust me.. I have been that liar too... we usually always end up realising the mistake that we have made..
You simply need some space and time to work out what is right for you...NOT HIM...YOU... what is that you really want?
The answer is not what you think you want now, but what you really want for the future..
If you are happy to have a cheat back and always be happy in the knowledge that he cheated once and may do it again... well that's good for you....but if not.....!
There is never an easy answer and you are the only person that reallty matters here[unless you have kids of course].
Don't make it easy for him and don't let him blame you or make you feel guilty... we men are good at that...
Also be careful of surrounding yourself with sychophants that will only tell you what they think you want to hear... the doctor is always a good start point... plus a counsellor.. it always helps...
Best of luck
God bless...
2006-10-04 22:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! I don't know how long you have been together or what your circumstances are but you need to either a) sit him down for a long and honest talk or b) just dump him.
If you have the long and honest talk, you must be prepared to hear things you might not like though - but better to be with someone who does not lie and cheat. Can you imagine going through the rest of your relationship ALWAYS distrusting him? It would not be good or healthy for you.
Good luck.
2006-10-04 21:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out for sure if he is cheating. If all the answers are unsatisfactory then walk away. If he comes clean then you will need to decide if you could ever learn to trust him again.
Maybe he wanted to get caught because he wants to break up or maybe he has a genuine reason.
Only talking to him and deciding what you want to do with the realtionship and what you can cope with will sort this one out.
Good Luck and don't be swayed, stay strong if you feel you need a break to get your thoughts together then get the gorils round and chuck him out until you feel strong enough to deal with this.
Good Luck!
2006-10-04 22:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how he reacts when you say "I'd love to go and see this show at the theatre".
Speak to him and question him on where he was?
Has he changed his pattern of mobile phone use, what he wears, mood differences etc?
Don't bottle it up - have a conversation with him and be up front. If its not true, he'll want to put your mind at ease. If it is true, then its better you know sooner than later.
Good luck
2006-10-04 21:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Smiler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is sweet, my man cheated on me taking his floozy to Brighton, so I went to Disney World Florida for 2 weeks with a new fancy man. I WON Scabby pebble beach, hilly, wet and cold boring Brighton V's Miami Beach and the tea-cup ride that made me puke at Disney
2006-10-04 21:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your feeling this its not a very nice thing to have to think. before you throw in the towel on your relationship do some more snooping satisfy yourself with evidence and then make a decision on what your going to do enlist help from friends if you can
2006-10-04 21:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by phillipa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear this. You need to ask him what is going on . Just be careful though - keep calm and let him explain then make your mind up. You are worth so much more!
2006-10-04 21:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know if he is cheating, you'll know deep in your heart. If things haven't been the same for a while and you notice a change! The hardest thing is admitting it to yourself in your head!! Once he know's your on to him - if he loves you - he'll give in??
2006-10-05 01:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by jodietanswell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats looks very likely, i mean not many guys love the theatre, but with a womans suggestion they would oblige i guess, but its pretty bad of him to be honest
2006-10-04 21:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by ho2asme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋