2006-10-04 21:37:12 · 22 answers · asked by Jovial110 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can children get divorced?
2006-10-04 21:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to imagine a more difficult transition for a child than to be a party to his or her parents' divorce. I have watched this closely the last few months as some very good friends of ours have been separated and preparing for divorce. And even through attempts at reconciliation through family counseling, the children have suffered.
Some fathers and mothers see divorce as "their" issue. "We just can't get along anymore" or "She has been unfaithful." In fact, the marital relationship has far reaching ramifications for children, extended families, friends and others.
The children in a divorcing family know that nothing will ever be the same again, and their previously secure world is in a state of change. Many things will change, not just that mother or dad will not be around. They may lost contact with extended family on one side or the other. Their bedtime, mealtime and after school routines may change. It is a state of upheaval.
When mom and dad are at odds and are either separated or considering separation, children have a realistic fear that if they lose one parent, they may lose the other. The concept of being alone in the world is a very frightening thing for a child.
Even though many divorces follow years of tension between husband and wife, the tension level typically increases during and shortly after a divorce. And parents who try to turn their children against the other spouse create an absolutely impossible situation for that child
2006-10-05 04:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to the kid to answer this. The children will later on their lives figure out what effects the divorce did. None of the answers will be correct because it's the kids that would decide who's right or wrong later in their life.
2006-10-05 04:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when my parents divorced and I was still devestated. My little sister was 14 and she started sleeping around, taking drugs and skipping school. As a dinner lady I can confirm that the most messed up kids are those from broken homes. And I'm still considering divorce just now after my husband had an affair.....my kids sanity is the only thing stopping me.
2006-10-05 08:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Effects on children are not necessarily traumatic. In fact many children prefer their parents to be apart and live in a peaceful home with one loving parent and seeing the other parent if homelife pre divorce was full of arguments and tension. If parents have been living together unhappily, the children pick it up and sometimes are relieved to not have to live in that atmosphere. If children are reassured it has nothing to do with them and are loved then it doesn't mean it's going to be awful for them after the split, in mnay cases it's better.
2006-10-05 04:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My childredn were teenagers when I got divorced - age 20, 16 and 15. The eldest saw it coming and was relieved for me having been unhappy for so long though she was living out of the house already. The second was fine and she kept being top of the class as usual, the youngest a boy took it worst as his father didnt bother to spend any time with him. Four years later he talks about how he cant wait to get married one day. It leaves scars but they can heal. The parents have to make an effort to be civil to one another and care for and love their children as much as they can
2006-10-05 06:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what is happening in the relationship and how old the children are. Younger children tend to cope better. If you are in a confrontational relationship isn't separation better on the children that watching their parents arguing all the time.
The divorce rate in the the UK is about 50% and most children seem to cope quite well.
2006-10-05 04:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mark G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The younger children are,effects them more...
I was 17 when my divorced,I know it's better that way(they were two different worlds!),but that effected me very much...
If you can sort it out somehow,leave your kids with both parents.
Try to talk with your other half,and to be friends-because of your children...The easiest way is to be mad at each other and to split up...
2006-10-05 06:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by Yasna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how acrimonious it is! If you and your partner hate each other and its a difficult atmosphere at home then Id imagine your kids will react badly such as confusion, being clingy, bed wetting possibly, etc. If its done in a mature adult way and the children have it explained to them that they are still loved by their parents and its not the kids fault this happened (reasurance all the time) then they may just get through it.
2006-10-05 04:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depend on how old the child is/are?
They could be old enough to understand and lets face it if they are older they have probably seen it coming.
If they are young then it may reflect on them later in life, young children firstly always think they are/were to blame its normal for them to think like this, they think they are not loved, later in life they may feel one of you left and didn't care enough for them, so many things you need to discuss with them and be clear.
Either way no matter how old they are it will in time have an effect somehow.
Be clear its the partner your leaving not them.
2006-10-05 04:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋