How can a reduce a man ego? and he is my dad..i have not yet spoke to him for a long time due to his arrogance

Question

i want to change the way my dad is ..he is jealous about my mom calling another friend..even thought that is her best friend..

ps..i not arrogant..i need to help my family as my dad has never been there for us..i am the backbone of the house..becuz of this he made my mom suffer..how can i talk to him?

im not as ego as my dad..im trying to save my mom as she is now in a dead lock,my dad refuse to listen to her...

Answer 1

first reduce your ego

Answer 2

how about you minding your own business. Am not saying this rudely at all. You can't change your dad nor your mom. What ever made you think you could?
But what you can change is yourself. Don't have a big ego like your dad or you mom. Be different in your own relationships with people and be more understanding

Answer 3

Basically, I think you have to take the first step which is always the hardest. For example, you can greet him in the morning if you have never done it before and in some other ways. Once you have started the first move, it will be easier for both of you to communicate.
This is not something you can do over one night but it takes a long time. Then slowly you can start to tell him on other topics and hopefully by then he is willing to listen what you are going to say

Answer 4

There is no way for a child to actually change a parents' way of thinking. Although, you may want to to try and confront, in a nice way of course, the parent. There are ways to confront persons without making them feel threatened. You know your father the best, so pick a way and try..... if that does not work, and they won't listen, write it in a letter and mail it certified. he may never address it, but you have... and you have the ability to know that you tried. be very carefull when confronting a parent... try to use a way that is non-confrontational, something that makes sense to them, even if it doesn't quite jive with your thinking.

Answer 5

Just leave it to them. Im sure that they can settle the problem by themselves. They adults right? So they sure know how to works thing out. An for you, dont think about the problem muvh cos it will affect your life. You are so young, there much more to learn and enjoy!
Stay strong and put those thing aside........

Answer 6

Smile, say "you're pathetic" and keep walking. Shake your head and keep smiling and KEEP WALKING! If he bugs you - smile (always smile and never get loud or pissy) and say something like "She's stupid enough to live with you isn't she? That should show you SOMETHING!" Just be careful - no matter how much of a jerk he seems to you now - he's still your Dad. And you can't get rid of that.

Answer 7

kids should not take sides about what mom and dad argue about.....both parents should have equal respect from their kid, unless one of the parents are abusive, then taking sides is acceptable.,.....go to dad and tell him you love him and leave it behind you life is too short and one day he will be gone and you will regret the time you spent being angry with him over something that is between your mom and dad....

Answer 8

your ego seems to be very similar to your dads,let him and your mum decide whats right for them not you,it will only make matters worse if you butt in,your dad won't change you may have to accept him as he is

Answer 9

i dono abt this..but my dad had broken his own record by not toking to me for 1 whole month..

i believe your dad is of old thinking school kind..hard to change him..need to accept n change urself

Answer 10

you need to grow up and relize that is between your mom and dad . your dad can ask your mom to stop it is none of your busniess .

Answer 11

and you will regret going through this , one day your dad won't be there. this is your mama's problem and she is old enough by now to deal with it. you need to keep that father / daughter relationship! because one day you really won't have it!