I have friends with Teenage children. The father has a child from his first marriage also, who is adult and has turned out quite well as far as character, manners and attitude goes but I'm worried about how the teenagers are going as the father appears to be hung up on the fact that he was not there during the upbringing of his first child. He often tells of how much he missed and how cruel it was and I empathise with him as a parent myself, I'd know how I'd feel but his other children are being cruely bullied at school because of how they dress, that they barely ever get haircuts etc. They have short tempers as a result and I am concerned that because his eyes are closed they will find themselves in trouble in the future, how should I approach the subject, I have brought clothes and lied to say that a younger family member was cleaning out their cupboard and did they want to go through the bag because they are offended if I even buy them a cheap B'day gift. What can I do to help??
2006-10-04 20:49:03 · 2 answers · asked by Shynealise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm not sure I understand this...you're saying that this guy has an older child who turned out great because the dad wasn't around. Now the dad is lamenting the fact he wasn't around for the raising of the son who turned out well, but his kids now are unkempt, dress shabbily and are exhibiting short tempers, while you who are trying to help has to lie so that the kids can accept the clothes? Is that about right?
For you to help you need to talk to this guy and point out that his kids look different than other kids because of their haircuts and their clothes etc. If you can elicit some help from the elder child that would seem to be the best avenue. Do you think the children are in jeopardy? Then you need to call Child Protective Services. If it's all something in between what I'm talking about hen be there for them, to help with school work, or to help with any psych problems you thing they might be up against. Sometime kids just need to know that someone is in their corner and will listen to them without judgment, if you can provide that, you would be doing the most magnificent service to them.
2006-10-04 21:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a best friend for him/her
help she/he with hearing everything
that make he/she fill sad or bored................
God will LOVE you............:)
2006-10-05 03:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by maryamok_haris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋