My husband ask my permition to divorce me. He insists that we have to get divorce first rather than fixing our marriage (5 years with two children). He needs for this therapy (by divorce period) coz he lost his trust on me. He thinks that I am lack of respect on him and his family.
He said that there is a possibility that one day he will regret it and will be to back to me.
2006-10-04 20:28:21 · 14 answers · asked by orchid palace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi Dewi just to let you know that whatever you do, don't stay with him just because of the children. Sometimes children are better off with their parents apart and not fighting, than together in a house of chaos. Engkau harus bercerita, ya? Or your children will not be happy. I have rated the other answers based on my idea of the worth of their advice.
2006-10-07 00:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rubbish!
If your husband needs to be alone for a while, then he can go and live somewhere else without having to divorce you. If he just wants to spend some time living somewhere by himself, you should agree to that. But not divorce!
Tell him that if he insists on divorcing you, you cannot afford to wait for him. You must be sure that you have a husband to look after you and your two children in the future, so you will immediately go out and start looking for one. Then he will not be able to come back, even if he does regret it.
See what he says to that. If he agrees, then he has no intention of ever coming back to you, he is only trying to soften the blow so you will agree. If that's the case, don't waste any more time on him!
2006-10-04 20:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend divorce at all because your children are the ones who're going to suffer the consequences specially because they're very little. I would ask to live for some time but ensuring him that is not a divorce. I would get closer to God if you have a religion it would help you better in how to confront any situation and hopefully in the future take your husband too. Try to keep him busy because right now is not about both of you anymore. Try to enroll your kids in different practices probably piano classes and toddler aerobics or something that will keep both of you busy.
2006-10-04 20:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by mansongirl17us 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you alone can really answer this question.
what i can say is i think you already know what to do.
that's why it's so hard for you to go ahead and do it.
especially in your case that you have children and all.
but i think things will still pan out the same way.
coz if you guys stay in a marriage that has lost its foundation already, just for the sake of your children, your children would still feel this lack of love.
and i don't think having a pseudo-marriage would be better than not having one at all.
but in the end, it's still you who's got to decide.
it really helps to know when to hold on and when to let go.
God bless.
2006-10-04 20:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be sure if he does get the divorce that you be sure to make sure he pays alimony and child support, and you are taken care of, the kids are taken care of, iron all those details out first because he may be trying to pull a fast one. i mean what therapy is it that he needs a divorce to work things out.
2006-10-04 20:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by hamhead 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for? For for it, if the jerk is in therphy he has problems or it's an excuse, whatever you don't need him. there is a lot of help you can get as a single parent to get on your feet, It's hard when you first split up, but, believe me give it six to eight months and honey you wan't want him back. I know I been down that road a couple of times myself. wouldn't take either one of them back today.
2006-10-04 20:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Whazup! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you seperate for the time being and think over about it rather than divorce.
2006-10-04 20:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is really just your decision adn nobody else should influence ur decision but u should really think about it and think about y he says those things and if u see what he is talking about then u can ask him to give u another chance as u try to change but if not then i would say get the divorce and move on
2006-10-04 20:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by muthafaka8o8 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do love him a lot.....change urself...if he's asking u to respect his family...then try to do so...dont rush into a divorce just like that.....sit and talk.....besides, u have two kids who would want both the parents love...
2006-10-04 20:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel the same way with my wife tho we have only one child,, sometimes it feels like she is my rival rather then partner...if he refuses counseling,, then settle everything in court and for the sake of the children try to end it on a positive note,,good luck and god bless
2006-10-04 20:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋