is it normal for them to be strange? they r acting like they r all busy all of the time is that normal? i really want to stay friends with them so what do i do?
2006-10-04 20:11:18 · 24 answers · asked by funny in a tragic way 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If they cannot accept you for who u are then they are not truly your friends
2006-10-04 22:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by coopchic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there is nothing that you can do about the way a person reacts to news of that caliber. It may take them a little bit to adjust to the news. But this is what I think, if they continue to blow you off, then they were never true friends in the first place. True friends would stick by you no matter what. I'm sorry that your so-called friends reacted to your news the way that they did. Im sure that you are feeling hurt on the inside. Just give it a little time and see where it goes from there. Just remember, true friends would be there through thick and thin!!!!
2006-10-04 20:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by littletease3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you come out to them? Perhaps for some reason they are busy, and because you have just popped this news on them you are creating a link in your mind. Give them some time and don't too strangely yourself. If they see that you are just the same as you were last week, last month, last year, they will still be there for you in the end.
2006-10-04 20:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ben D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just think they don't know how to act. In a period of time they have given you being a bit different a place in their mind. In my opinion, they will not care any longer about it and will act as good friends / normal acting again. If they don't, like they can't accept it, ok, they aren't real friends, cause real friends don't let you down for an issue like this.
I came out to one friend and she was very good about the news. Now I can talk with her about it and making plans to tell it to my other friends and parents (she accompanied me to go to a gay bar etc, isn't it wonderful of her!)
I think it will be ok with you and your friends. Give them some air and everything will fine.
Good luck!
2006-10-04 21:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened to my younger brother. He came out when he was 15 in high school. All his "Friends" darted, even the girls except one. Him and her have remained friends all this time, he's now 27. It wasn't easy for him at first but after he came out he made a whole new batch of friends and has been happier since. Don't get down about it, they may need time to get used to it and to think about it and this is when you will find out who you real friends actually are.
2006-10-04 20:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friends might seem a little freaked out because they are. here u are the friend that they thought they knew and you pop some news like this on them. They just need a little time to get used to this change. If they are anything like me, they might think that you want to get with them. If they are really ur friends they'll come around.
2006-10-04 20:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by peach49444 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time. If they continue to act strange, then get some new friends.
2006-10-04 20:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by t_raudenbush 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing normal in the way they are acting. If your friends cannot simply accept you for who you are, then they are not very nice people.
2006-10-04 20:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by sangheilizim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal. You just threw them for a loop. You've had time to adjust to this, you need to give them time also. If they are true friends, they will come around. If not, it's sad but they weren't real friends anyway.
2006-10-04 20:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems like theyre shocked by your revelation,just give them time to absorb what they have just found out and maybe later on they will come to realize and understand you.Its time to meet new ones in case u need some.Keep in touch with me at YM.
2006-10-04 21:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by karatekiddo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of my friends friends came out aswell, her friends are still treating her the same but they are in denial by telling her that she just thinks shes gay and its normal to have a crush on a girl but it may be nothing, they'll come around. its normal.
2006-10-04 20:14:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋