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I am an architect from Central America, I married a Swiss man and moved here, at first it was hard to find work, and I was so depressed at home, for five months, at last I got a chance to do an internship at an architecture firm (and that was tough because my German is good, but not perfect, and I don't have an European diploma). Anyway at first everything was great, I've been working with an Italian architect, and he's basically my boss, on a personal level we get along great, but at work I notice that everything turns out to be my fault, even when I only make mistakes because he's so unorganized and everything has to be done in so little time. After a year I asked my boss if I could have a raise or have a normal job, and he said no.. continue my internship for a year, that I'm in this Italian's shadow.. and as much as I've pleaded to be included in the meetings, and be involved.. I'm not. And I have to deal with the Italian's constant bad mood. Should I tell my boss? We're only 7

2006-10-04 19:44:47 · 7 answers · asked by verito 2 in Business & Finance Careers & Employment

We're only 7 people in an open office, and I really like working here, but I can't handle this anymore. He's always in a bad mood, but I don't want him fired either, I mean he's getting married this month. Plus I have the feeling he's badmouthing me to the boss. And I'm really scared of job hunting again, staying at home alone, and getting depressed. Should I just wait till it all blows over, and when I'm done with this project, ask to be moved to another??

2006-10-04 19:48:23 · update #1

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That's tough. First of all, I think you should talk with your husband about it. I think you will want to have his support whatever you choose to do.

I suppose another question is whether you think there are other opportunities for work. Is there any way you could quietly look around without jeopardizing your current job?

I wouldn't personally want to stay in a job like that, but I can't presume to understand your circumstances. For example, you might believe that staying with this job for a while would qualify you for other opportunities.

All that said, I think you are being taken advantage of and you should not permit it unless you feel you have to. Perhaps he is taking you for granted and if you talk with him and indicate that you will be looking elsewhere for a job, he'll reconsider his treatment of you.

Good luck with this, and remember that you are a valuable person who doesn't deserve to be mistreated.

2006-10-04 19:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas C 3 · 0 0

I would talk to your boss, but be prepared to leave, if all doesn't go well. You should explain that you love working with the company, but you do find the current assignment challenging. State what you've learned with the Italian architect and then why the assignment is a challenge.
Tell your boss what you want from the internship and your future goals. Ask him/her how you can earn more responsibility and explain that you would like to be able to contribute more.
The key to this conversation is balance. Remember, a boss wants to hear what you add to the equation, not just what you need from him/her.

2006-10-04 20:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by rainy11400 2 · 0 0

Look...as i see it nothing in life is ever fair...but you do have the ability to change that.. purchase the book Knock em Dead resumes and write up a nice little resume to find a new job..dont let anyone at work know that you are looking or they will fire you...when you find a job with a respectable company you will be much happier...however while you are still with the company try to meet or exceed all requirements of you...no matter what happens keep a smile on your face...Definatly purchase that book

2006-10-04 20:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by camden 3 · 0 0

Get yourself some qualifiactions that will be recognised in the EU even if u have to go to school for some time. Then I am sure that u will get a proper job that will acknowledge your skills. U shus have done this when u were sitting at home and getting depressed.

2006-10-04 19:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0 0

i advise you to leave. your potentials are not being utilized well and you are being abused emotionally, without you knowing it. don't be afraid of having to go through the whole job-hunting process again. weight out things, which would you rather tolerate, an office mate you don't like or the job-hunting process?

2006-10-04 19:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by jewel 2 · 0 0

my similar guy,

i am an accountant i am in similar working condititons &from some months ago i was under worser conditions but i passed it recently

dear , you must be smart with your boss

2006-10-04 20:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by ISLAMIAT 2 · 0 0

Always Hope for the Best. I wish you best of luck, my dear.

2006-10-04 20:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Saood 2 · 0 0

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