can you ever forget
2006-10-04 19:02:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What is with all the pasted rubbish?If I posted that question I would want REAL answers from REAL people from the heart.
I have had 2 different rape experiences in my life.Rape is something a woman can never forget,but learn to live with.If it has happened to you or a friend the first thing I would suggest is counselling.Never ever bottle something as horrific as this up.Keep talking and crying until you get it all out of your system.It gets so much easier with time.They say time is a great healer,it is true.The way I see it,you or your friend are NOT a rape victim,you are a SURVIVOR.Bad things that happen make us stronger,and more wise.I would not wish this on my worst enemy.We have to live our life to its full potential,and be as happy as we possible can.To crumble is to let this person win,and keep winning.No woman,no matter what she was wearing was 'asking' for it.It is not our fault in any way.Never ever blame yourself.I hope you or your friend finds some peace with this.
2006-10-04 20:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
No you will never forget it. For example. I was raped for over 3 years of my childhood, my family took me to couniling untill I was 11 and I still remeber almost every detail. Its horrible and every man caught doing it should die. I still think about it and things remind me of it. Some people just arent as fortonate as others. Im scarred for life but there is not a damn thing i can do about it now. Facing the problem is the best thing. And if you havnt told on the person that did it you better do it now. Dont be afraid of him hurting you, he will be in prison got the next 20 plus years.
2006-10-04 19:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was raped by my real father when i was 6 years old- I am now 24 it took many nights of crying and hateing and going to counselors but eventually i got to where i felt i could forgive him. You may never forget and Im sorry this happened to you or someone you know.
2006-10-04 19:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by What Do you Think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?? Of course if she was raped it would hurt. It doesn't matter if the girl doesn't have a penis. There are dildo's of all sizes. They do it vaginal and anal. Yes it would be very painful if being forced. Your best friend needs to report this to the cops and tell them what happened. This is horrible.
2016-03-18 05:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only professional help is the answer, but it is very hard to get it out of mind ever. For some it seems impossible, but it is possible to a get a good life back.
Having real good friends and the practice of martial arts helped me a lot too.
2006-10-04 19:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by willow, the yodakitty from hell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She never does. I had a friend that was raped by 6 guys and she felt it was her fault and she ended her life thinking it was. She was only 17.
2006-10-04 21:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was raped when i was about 6 years old and it took many years of therapy and inner contimplation to get over it. it still hurts but i can now move on and help others with the same thing.
2006-10-04 19:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont forget. You have to forgive and realise these people are not normal and you have to know they havent taken anything from you. You are a whole person who derserves to be happy.
Remember you are in control of you self and you can get through it and come out feeling beter than ever. I promise you! You have to believe in yourself and dont let any feelings of guilt, shame etc even enter your mind because this rape had nothing to do with you in the sense its all about power and a very disturbed insecure man. You are not like him so be strong
2006-10-05 05:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We all grieve and deal with things in our own way.
It has been over 15 years for me and I am finally coming to terms.
I have accepted Christ and it has brought much comfort.
Do as you need, but don't keep it in.
Talk to someone.
2006-10-04 19:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's quite hard..there will be nightmares and vivid thoughts and even phobia with men..it's not easy to get over with...i know it's not easy to say that you need your family to console you or friends to cheer you up...what's important is that you're not alone on this difficult time and you have god as the center of your life..it takes time to forget a bad memory, a bad experience
2006-10-04 19:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by harukashin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋