also if you think homosexuality is sin, could a gay person be your friend?
2006-10-04 19:01:52 · 18 answers · asked by ? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I see from the answers that straight people view this as a difference of opinion, gay people view this as an identity issue. Definitely a bridge to cross.
2006-10-04 19:34:24 · update #1
Yes. And Yes.
Although, the closer their opinions are to mine, and/or the more able we both are to 'agree to disagree' respectfully, the easier it is to engage in morals-based conversations.
I'm from an Evangelical background, and when I came out, some friendships became stronger or closer, and some more distant, but I don't think I actually 'lost' any friendships with people who were close to me (just a couple of people I still emailed/talked to, and hadn't seen in a couple of years or more - I think we decided we didn't have the levl of commitment to our friendship to put the extra energy into dialoguing extensively to understand each other.)
2006-10-05 05:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I told My Aunt; " It's all a matter of relevance." If every second word is , " Your Gonna Burn In Hell! " Then, No. Get out of my Face. If It's a matter of , " OMG!. your a sinner! RUN ! " then, good riddance. Yet if we both have some kind of common sense, we realize we have many differences which make us unique and can learn from one another. maybe that person who thinks homosexuality is a sin will realize that they are also a sinner and focus on there own shortcomings rather than focusing on others in order to avoid their own problems.
2006-10-04 22:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by marypopins 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of emotional intelligence, not 'identity' for me.
Why would I invest my energies into building a friendship whereby the person I was trying to befriend did not respect, understand or accept me?
This issue and your question is totally divorced from sexuality, religion, morality or your interpretation of how homosexuals deflect judgment ---- and everything to do with self-esteem and comprimising one's own value system out of being desperate or lonely.
2006-10-04 21:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. There are people who sincerely believe that homosexuality is a sin. But they are not hateful gay bashers. In fact, it is pretty main stream Christianity to hate the sin and not the sinner.
It is quite possible for many of these people to put aside their objection to the lifesyle and concentrate on commanalities that form the basis of a friendship.
It is the talk of the hatemongers and the narrow minded that seemingly makes this impossible. There are also those who wish to impose thier morals on everyone. There do seem to be a lot of these nowadays--and with them a friendship is impossible.
But I actually think with many people who have this religious belief it is quite possible to have a friendship--if you otherwise have the elements that would make friendship possible.
2006-10-04 21:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I used to say and think this, but honestly, I can't anymore. I've always been sort of an activist--been out as bi all my adult life--but marrying my wife and then having the legal aspect of our marriage ripped out from under us made me a bit more militant. I truly cannot consider someone who thinks that they get to make me live by their beliefs my friend anymore, at all. Some of them think they're my friends because I'm civil. They think wrong.
2006-10-04 19:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A casual friend, but I doubt that person would be anyone I actually confided in.
I mean if that person was someone who actively spread hate and lies about gays/lesbians, no that person would not be my friend. I simply have no patience for liars or the influence of hate in my life or on my family.
2006-10-04 19:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, my religious beliefs differ from my friends all the time. Tis not my place to judge others, and keep score about their sins and good deeds, thats Gods job. I would just agree to disagree.
2006-10-05 05:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...if you r truly friends. My best friend is dead set against gay/lesbian relationships. I say to each his own. We do have some heated discussions on this issue and even have lesbian friends. Personally I don't have a problem with it at all, in fact some of the coolest people I've met are homsexuals.
2006-10-04 19:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Boo 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
is best to never trust a god botherer,anyone that can truly beleive in the concept of sin is a little delusional and to maintain a beleive in god after about 5 takes some very twisted thinking
....best to just stay acquaintance's
2006-10-04 19:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bearable 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I could be close friends with someone who felt that way. my closest friends are those who still love me for who I am...and don't want me to change...and I don't want them to change either.
2006-10-05 02:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋