Well my boyfriend has been very accusing of me every time i do something he thinks i am cheating him and just gets really jeleous
2006-10-04 18:39:29 · 8 answers · asked by Brittany Chavez Perez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is common, but not always the case, that people who are very accusatory of others are actually deflecting potential criticism of themselves. They put you on the defensive before you get a chance to accuse them.
But if you have a gut feeling / 6th sense about his cheating on you, there may be something to your feeling.
It is not likely that you will catch him in the act, cheating on you. You would need a witness (a friend to follow him, a private investigator, etc.) But even then, people who want to cheat will try really hard to hide their actions.
You need to think this through, and you need to catch him telling lies -- giving conflicting stories, details that don't quite match up, unaccounted for gaps in time, etc. It is not easy to tell when someone is lying to you, but there are several cues that experts seem to rely upon.
One is when someone embellishes a story with too many details, as if trying to convince you of their story. Or if someone answers in terse yes or no statements.
Another technique you can use is if he offers an alibi, another person who can vouch for his activity, then you offer to call that person directly. He probably won't expect that - he would just expect you to accept his word.
Be careful because you might find what you are looking for.
Good luck.
2006-10-04 18:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tom-SJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just being controlling in an abusive way. He's too insecure for you. Dump him. Red flag alerts are very strong. You won't be happy with him. Don't ever feel desperate enough to stay with someone who displays those characteristics.
Trust me, you deserve better treatment than that. He'll make your life a living hell. Get out of that relationship! He's going to treat you like an idiot.
2006-10-05 01:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can say for sure whether someone is cheating on u if smth in his behaviour pattern changes - like if he didn't shave he starts shaving, he didn't take care of his clothes he starts taking care, if he was staying mostly at home now he is going on business trips quite often (and sometimes he doesn't even have any business). about him accusing u of cheating i can't say anything - maybe u re flurting with other guys in front of him and he is annoyed with that
2006-10-05 01:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep look for the signs that were stated here, keep a close eye on him as well. my hubby started acting the same way and it only intensified when he started having an affair.
2006-10-05 02:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer is simple guilty conscience. hes accusing u of all that hes doing. trying to draw the attention away from him
2006-10-05 07:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyes322 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a show, to cover up his wrong doing.just tell him , you don't have to accuse me of nothing just because you are doing just what you has accuse me of.
2006-10-05 01:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check his sms. install a key logger on his computer. hire a PI.
2006-10-05 05:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by peaceful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your self do you need this then decide on what to do
2006-10-05 01:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋