How do you know how to act and behave all the time? How do you know how to act in different situations? How do you know what to say,how to respond. It seems I dont have personality or something.I always copy what others people do,I think everyone also is better than me.When I am with my friends I just act like them. When I am alone I dont know how to act what to do at all. How do you do things you do,do you look somewhere for guidance? Alot of people say I do whatever I want and act the way I want. But what if I don't know what I want and how I want to act. I am so lost. Could this be due to that I am suffering from Anxiety and Depression,social anxiety to be exact where I get intense panic attacks,and feel really depressed all the time.Anxiety makes me fearful of evertything. Do you think when I will get rid off anxiety and depression,let go of the fear my real self will show up and I will know how to act and be my self?
2006-10-04 18:38:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Be yourself. You seem to be on the right track so far. Of course you are going to act differently in different company. With your freinds you may act silly. But if you are at church with your friends you will act more appropriately. Relax when you are alone. No one is watching you. You are fine. Your anxiety is normal. Everyone goes through that, type of stuff. One day you will be free and realize people love you for your real self. If you are still young and in school it is hard to see that. Good Luck. People you don't even know exist love you, you just don't know it. And they accept you for who you are. Some people can even see through your anxiety to the wonderful person you are inside, they recognize your struggles. It will get better, dont' be afraid, Learn to trust your gut feeling about who you can trust, and who you can't trust completely. The world is not black and white. It is not freind, or not friend. Some friends are only fun, when you want to go party, but they are not fun, when you are having a bad day. Some friends are only good t complain about life with, but not to tell them that you made straight AAA's. My older sister, never wanted to hear good news from me. She loves me, but she is just naturally pesimistic, she would make me sad, if I called to say I have a new job, I love it. But if I had a bad day, she was the one who was there to see me through. My little sister, never wanted to hear anything bad, she would get sad, if I was sad, but I could always talk about how much fun I had going out or good things. If you are lucky you will know who to talk to about what. Mostly, if you just have an open ear, sometimes people(your freinds,family) want to complain to you, they dont even want an answer, they just want someone to sit there and hear them talk, and that makes them feel better. Try not even giving advice, just be there. You live you learn. Don't be afraid to take chances, with the people, you feel are really good inside, and care for you inside. Good Luck
2006-10-04 18:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through with what you've been through, friend. In more ways than one, I've felt like either I was being molded by someone else's and/or society's ideals or felt that I should. After I gave up on their efforts, I had to abandon their "personality" and confront my true self. It was scary and hard to do, but I was able to accept who I really was with a little time and patience. You can do it, now that your more aware.
2006-10-04 19:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Daemon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doing what others do is always good camouflage (that's how you know which fork to use). I think if you do some reading about etiquette and social conventions you will have more confidence and the other problems will disappear.
2006-10-04 18:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have desire? Do you sometimes wish to eat something sweet, do you have something you wanna accomplish in life? Desire is what makes us wanna do things. Desire to please somebody, desire to feel love and be loved, desire to taste sweet things, desire to see beautiful things, desire to feel happiness and excitement, desire to feel pleasure thru your senses. I think you have all of this, it's jus that your anxiety is preventing you from experiencing all these. Speak to your doctor about it.
2006-10-04 18:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be your self,nothing is bigger than fear it self
2006-10-04 18:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u know what u know
2006-10-04 18:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋