My boyfriend and i have been together for over 9 years and we have a son together and another one on the way, i am almost 6 monthes pregnant, and me and my boyfriend have not had sex in over 2 monthes... im feeling very deprived (LOL) Just because im pregnant doesn't mean i don't have needs, right? Well my question is how do i tell him this, i feel kind of embarassed to bring it up. I'm also wondering if maybe its because im pregnant and he thinks it might hurt the baby, or maybe he thinks i don't want to do it... or maybe he is not attracted to me when im pregnant... i didn't have this problem when i was pregnant with my first son, and we do not live together however see each other often and have alone time... i guess my questions are.....
-Do you think he doesn't want to have sex with me because he thinks it will hurt the baby?
-He doesn't want to have sex because he thinks i don't want to?
-He's just not attracted to me when im pregnant?
-AND...How do i bring this up???
2006-10-04 18:25:04 · 15 answers · asked by Romy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have not initiated sex, i dont know how to bring it up... feeling kind of embarassed, and was kind of worried it was me that he wasn't attracted to during pregnancy, so didnt want to bring it up!!
2006-10-04 18:43:38 · update #1
I am not "unkept" i look and dress and put makeup on the same way before i was pregnant only difference is i have a big belly now, with a baby in it, lol
2006-10-04 18:46:18 · update #2
Hon, relax and simply ask him. Don't be embarrassed to ask him either, approach it as, "I've noticed so I am wondering." You really don't know what he is thinking or what is on his mind, it could be something you never thought of. If he's afraid of hurting the baby, there are other positions and, keep in mind, there is nothing more beautiful than a woman who is pregnant. Good luck.
2006-10-04 18:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by dns_hth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL wow you must have a good labido girl! I am a little over 6 months pregnant and I am never in the mood. My husband on the other hand is always in the mood! All your questions may be correct. I don't think it's about not being attractive to you while pregnant. maybe he is worried about having another baby. To bring this up with him just simply ask him if everything is ok. If he says "yes,why?" then just answer "I want to know if you are ok with having another baby, and felt maybe something was bothering you." Some men are worried about hurting the baby,however you mention that you two have already had one child together and this wasn't an issue before. Your only way of knowing how HE feels is by talking to him openly about this. Then you can lighten up the end of the conversation by asking " soooo you in the mood?" and smile
2006-10-05 01:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Laura R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you bring up the fact that you wanted sex when you were not pregnant. Do it the same way. If he backs away, ask him why. If he says he is afraid to have sex with you in fear for hurting the baby, essure him that just so long as you don't have any health factors right now, it is perfectly safe for the two of you to "get it on". Also, let him know that it will help your delivery. Doctors have said that if you have sex often while pregnant, it helps to exercise your vaginal muscles and makes delivery faster and easier. SO, if you are in the mood, I say jump him!!!
2006-10-05 01:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by dienna c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man this happened to me as well. What i did was that I was MAJORLY deprived that I took his *** to the doctor so that SHE can assure him that he will not hurt the baby.
If that didn't happen with the first, (because it was my first child when I had the same issue) he may have lost interest in you sexually, maybe your looking a little unkept. That was the issue with my second child, turned out he wasn't turned on my my body anymore, so I eventually left him. But do take him to the doc to reassure him, do your best to look at t feel sexy for him. Have some more fun good luck.
2006-10-05 01:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by chula1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually I've heard that men are more attracted to women that are pregnant. Have you tried making a move on him. Maybe he just thinks that you don't want to have sex. You should try and see what happens. He could also have a fear that he might hurt the baby but you'll never know unless you try!
2006-10-05 01:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk about it. Have you tried initiating sex? If he still blows you off then there is a bigger problem. Ask him point blank if you can't talk about it, maybe you can write it out so that he will read it. But just talk that's the best way to solve a problem. And if he still doesn't want sex after you talk go buy toys. :) Every woman is entitled to satisfaction.
2006-10-05 01:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by kholbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to have a talk with your bf..
Ask him if there is anything on his mind or another reason why you two haven't enjoyed your sex life in awhile. Tell him you want to make sure he is still comfortable with sex while you are pregnant even if you have to try different or positions which are most comfortable to you.
2006-10-05 01:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 8 months pregnant now and i had the same problem. my boyfriend says that pregnant women are sexy but he wouldn't have sex with me so i started accusing him of cheating. now we have sex every night and he dont go anywhere without me!
2006-10-05 02:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by betty_h1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand how after being with him for 9 years that you cannot talk to him about this. We can only guess why.... he can tell you. Just say to him that you want to talk and tell him that you are wondering why you arent as "active" as you use to be
2006-10-05 01:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MOST LIKELY HE IS AFRAID THAT HE WILL HURT THE BABY. TALK TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE READY. TELL HIM HE BETTER GET IT NOW BECAUSE AFTER BABY COMES THEN HE HAS TO WAIT.
2006-10-05 01:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋