Many moments of my life are haunting me, i relive them in detail and then proceed to talk through them the way I wish I had because of what the truth of those moments are now revealling to me. There are a few scenios however the most painful are the ones involving my husband and his insults and lies when he was having an affair. I know this pain will be there wheather I allow him to stay or demand he leaves for good this time - even if he were to die. This emotional/heartache pain and reliving won't stop, I need to find away and soon. Even during the dead of sleep I'm woken up in full emotional pain and reliving a moment. How do you stop emotional/heartache pain?
2006-10-04 18:23:34 · 11 answers · asked by carenffb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, it is ok to reflect upon the past and learn from it. It isn't healthy, however, to keep reliving them continuously. You should really find someone you can talk to and get it out of your system. I know that it is hard to move on after being hurt so bad but it can be done. Focus more on something that makes you happy, rather it be sewing, mentoring a child or going back to school. Find something that makes YOU happy and go with it. I hope that you get back on your emotional feet soon!
2006-10-04 18:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having just found out my ex is living with a girl young enough to be his grandaughter who he was seeing when we were still together, I so understand how u feel
I found myself doing the same thing, almost drove myself mad, I could actually feel my pulse raging when I started on it, like a record I couldnt turn off
THen one day I realised I was only hurting myself, I sat down and wrote a list of all the things he did wrong and a letter I never posted saying all the things I wished I had said to his face
THEN I gave myself a little mantra
THIS TOO WILL PASS
Every time my brain started on its cycle I would say it, it had the effect of pulling me up and making me remember how much I was hurting myself but also seemed to stop my brain going on its merry go round
After a few weeks I found I wasnt thinking about it any were near as much,
Good luck
2006-10-04 19:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of any medication of emotional pain, so for me, time is the best bet. Perhaps over time you will be able to let go, hard as it may. When you face betrayal from the one person who is not supposed to let you down, it is normally not easy to forget. Over time, you may tell yourself that you have completely forgiven him and bear no grudges against the things he had done, but more often than not, it is hardly ever totally true. You'll still find the hurt there and you'll still feel dis-satisfaction for being treated that way. Probably you should try to start your life all over again without your husband.
2006-10-04 18:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i def. think if at all possible you should get into some counseling, you should also know that its easy to get depressed with all the feeling piling up, your health with start to become affected. i am going through the same thing and i am starting to realize that no matter the reasons, or the apology or whatever will make the hurt and pain go away, he hurt yu, yu are still hurt, time will help, but ask yourself if him being around is a reminder of the hurt. if so get away from him and think about it. no one deserves to hurt like that.
2006-10-04 19:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am right there with you. I do the exact same thing.
I lie in bed at night, frequently, going through a laundry list of the horrible things that have happened in my life, and, to your point, there is nothing worse than the episode of my spouse cheating on me, lying, beating me up mentally over it, etc.
I talk through the conversations in my head. I talk through my thoughts. I develop the dialog of the situations...just like you describe.
IT IS ABSOLUTE H*LL!
I wish I knew how to stop it. I dont! I have talked to family, friends, etc.
Hit me on the side if you wish!
2006-10-04 18:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your need to have this awful person in your mind. as long as you allow this he has power over your every breath, Would you allow garbage to sit in your home rotting away,and the smell driving you crazy. No you would get rid of the garbage and have a clean house. House clean your mind. when he try's to get in mentally tell him to fluffy off and slam the door. After a while he will go away, and you will be free. get counselling if necessary best of luck
2006-10-04 18:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! First of all you should not be living like that, ask him if he would go to councilling with you, if he does nt want to, one of you has to leave. The bible says marital unfaithfulness is the only thing that the Lord will allow for a divorce.Jesus loves you, if I were you I would give him all of your pain, he wants to console you, teach you, help you etc. all you have to do is invite Him into your heart, He awaits you.........I will pray for you
2006-10-04 18:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone you can talk to and let it out, keeping it in will kill you, first love yourself enough, to fight back. don't let him control your life, get back your life, get out of the house, because when you are alone that is all on your mine, keep yourself bessie. do something you like to do.have him wondering where you are some of the time. he will change or leave
2006-10-04 18:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go talk to someone about it you need to talk to someone that will tell no body what you say to them about your problems it will ease and then stop the pain that you are going through
2006-10-04 18:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by dee d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor and get some prescription medication. Valium , I think.
2006-10-04 18:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋