2006-10-04 18:10:55 · 15 answers · asked by samantha s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
after months of not seeing or hearing from him, thank the lord, and after he caused a lot of bother when we did split up acting like a spoilt brat, he has now told friends of mine hes out to get me to cause trouble again, i am guessing its cause he may have heard theres a possible new b/f for me on the scene, i just dont know what to do, cuase i dont want any trouble.
2006-10-04 18:24:49 · update #1
after months of not seeing or hearing from him, thank the lord, and after he caused a lot of bother when we did split up acting like a spoilt brat, he has now told friends of mine hes out to get me to cause trouble again, i am guessing its cause he may have heard theres a possible new b/f for me on the scene, i just dont know what to do, cause i dont want any trouble.
2006-10-04 18:26:34 · update #2
soz for adding additions twice its late, and couldnt sleep lol
2006-10-04 18:27:23 · update #3
It can be troublesome when they won't let go, but you have to be clear about how you really feel about all this before giving your ex all the responsibility.
I am glad you have found apotential new b/f. It feels good to be in a special relationship where you feel wanted and loved. It is also quite gratifying to notice that someone from your past is now noticing what he has been missing, i.e. YOU, and how special you are. It is natural to feel like having a bit of a bask in that - especially if your split was painful. There was pain, now you're stronger, and suddenly the source of that pain is suffering a bit and appears to want to be involved in your life again.
If you are absolutely certain that it is over between you and your ex, check there's no part of you that's enjoying his attentions in some way. Then do all the things our friends at Answers are suggesting. Tell him straight - it's over, I am not interested in being with you again. If he persists, do not respond to texts, hang up when he calls and, if he comes round, tell him to leave. Now. And mean it.
2006-10-04 19:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when guys get the big brother complex after you break up with them. the thing is he still likes you. He's holding onto the hope that if you are not with anyone then he can get with you. So he will find anything wrong with the other guys. All of a sudden he shows interest. The best thing to do is to confront him. Tell him to back off. This may not work the first time but keep it up. eventually he'll get the pictue. Also if he cares so much take another look at his status as boyfriend. He may have grown since the break up. But then again this is a guy we are talking about. I doubt it. Just cover all your bases.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 01:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by lorrieface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he starts making trouble then contact the police. Have a restraining order served on him preventing him from telephoning, e-mailing & coming within 100 yards of any member of your family. That way if/when he violates he will be arrested & maybe then he will realise he is hurting no-one but himself.
2006-10-05 02:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind and tell him to back off and stay out of your life. Stand by your decision. If you're wishy washy about it then it could hurt future relationships.
2006-10-05 01:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to F*CK OFF and get on with his life, my ex done that and i got abusive text messages and voice messages and i had to work thro it, lucky i had a very supportive new boyfriend!!!!!!!! Good Luck xx
2006-10-05 04:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really problem - they just can't give up. Like a bad fart.
Time and only time. Just tell her to stop doing.
2006-10-05 01:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont care who you go out with just stop telling people about me.
2006-10-05 06:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called a restraining order
2006-10-05 01:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your phone number and if they want to chat or they knock on your door, tell them to not come around ever again... harsh but quite to the point and yes they understand and it gets the point across!
2006-10-05 01:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make iut perfectly clear that there is not any chance now, or ever, that you will get back to him, and all that he is doing is pushing you further away..... Hopefully that might help a little.
2006-10-05 03:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by break 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋