Is it ok to date an older guy as long as you 2 are not sleeping together?

Answer 1

Sex is not the most important part of a relationship...sure there's not denying it'll be there...my point that shouldn't be on your mind when considering this.

Now I'm 6 years older than my g/f, we started dating when she was 16. Sex wasn't on our minds though, we went out because of how well we got along, we'd known each other our whole lives, our personalities just matched.

Your age does matter though. I would say 16-17 is almost too young. It's been two years and we've only become physical in the past 6 months.

and I would say that 6-7 years age difference is a lot...I've worried about it...I actually broke up with her because I felt the age difference was too great. But I couldn't stand not being near her...the thought of being without her crushed me...we hadn't become physical at that point...just spent a lot of quality time...that...is a very important factor. We knew each other quit well. When I thought about being around some other girl...I wanted it to be her...I wanted her to be next to me before I fell asleep...and still beside me when I woke up...I wanted her to be on the couch on a sunday afternoon just reading the comic or something while I was watching tv or something...I wanted her in my life...I couldn't picture any one else fitting into that space...sex was not a part of the factor.

In the end you have to go with your feelings...don't ignore your friends...a study I saw shows that a girls friends are more likely to determine if the relationship will end than the girl or guy in the relationship. If your friends strongly feel the guy is just using you then they are doing so (if they are close friends) for a reason. Sex should be waited for. If he can't wait and if you can't wait...wrong motives. Wanting sex can cloud your judgment...I'm not going to make sex into this wonderful magical thing that virgins tend to view it as (hell I did)...cause..it's not...and you won't really understand that until after sex (I didn't). But that's no reason to try to experience it (wasn't mine ;D ).

Any way back on topic here, I would honestly say it depends...my own personal views are that the age of the younger of the two shouldn't be below 17...I mean 16 is pushing it really. And the age difference shouldn't be more than 6 years...that's pushing it too. Call me a hyporcrite cause of my relationship...but there were some extinuating circumstances...any way...my answer...it depends

Answer 2

As long as you are both legal, there is nothing wrong with dating or sleeping with an older man. If you are under aged, then you shouldn't date an older man. It's ok to be friends with him, but it is not normal or ok for an older man to be interested in a teenager/younger girl. In that case, dating an older man will only confuse you and possibly worse. I'm turning 25 next week and my boyfriend is 21 years older than me to the day, but it works for us and it's the best relationship I've ever been in, just because I'm more emotionally mature and have more mature interests than people closer to my age. But if you'd caught me four years ago when I was still in college, I never would have considered him, because I wouldn't have been ready for that. That said, my first "boyfriend" was 18 when I was 16. We hung out together and I thought he really liked me. I told him I wasn't ready for sex and he said it was ok, but as it turns out, that's all he was really interested in and I guess he figured I was just pathetic enough that I'd eventually let him do whatever he wanted. Well, he got his way and I never talked to him again after that, even though he tried to get me to come back around. And let me just give you a warning -- if he tells you not to report him for rape, he knows he's doing something wrong. I let that boy take my virginity because I didn't insist against it even though I told him I was uncomfortable with it, but when he turned around and immediately wanted a bj, I told him that if he made me I'd bite it -- and he believed me and stopped. By all means, be friends with people outside your rehlm of experience... that's good for you. But DO NOT let it go any further or you will only resent him and yourself for it in the end. He may seem great now, but if you start feeling uncomfortable at any time or if he starts pressuring you later, then it will be time to go your separate way immediately.

Answer 3

Depends on the age. Like if ur under 18 and the guy is like in his 20s then no it is not ok.

Answer 4

If it's not ok to sleep with them then it's not ok to date them. There is something hinky with someone who wants to date younger girls. It usually means that girls their own age won't go out with them. So listen to your sisters they most likely know what they're talking about. There's a reason he's trolling in the younger pools.

Answer 5

It's okay to date whoever you choose so long as both parties are above the age of consent otherwise with or without sex you are heading down a dangerous road.

Answer 6

If you are dating as in going out as a couple then no doubt he will be expecting more out of the relationship as time goes on, so why not save yourself grief and get out now as you give the impression you don't want it to go any further.

Answer 7

Depends on your ages.. If you are both of legal age then it doesn't matter what you do. If you are not, then you shouldn't even be dating, much less sleeping together.

Answer 8

It really depends on how old you are and how much older the person is.

Answer 9

I don't see why not I mean you two aren't sleeping with each other and the man isn't doing anything wrong so I don't see why not.

Answer 10

Depends on your age and his age. Even if your not having sex some acts may be inappropriate. Be carefull