my best friend's a guy that i've known since preschool. every since about sixth grade i've known that he was gay. he never told me or anything, i just knew. i never had problem with this at all. that's the thing. i alway just thought of him as Jeff. why would it matter to me? but...here's the bad part. now that we're in highschool, everyone makes fun of him and now they make fun of me to. i can care less what they say, but it's as if Jeff never wanted to tell me that he was gay. I dunno what to do...he's mad that he's getting made fun of...im mad that he longer is plain old Jeff.
2006-10-04 17:54:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he is still the same jeff u have known since u were kids. talk to him as a friend of many years & let him know u r still his friend no matter what & ignore the ignorant fools who make fun of u all. they soon will find something or someone else to pick on & leave u all alone & things will go back to normal. sure they will be some who will never grow up & will always show there ignorance, but why let their stupidity stop u all from living ur high school years to its fullest? hold ur heads up high & walk on past them & enjoy these years to the fullest. don't let them ruin this time for u all. they aren't worth it. later on down the line u will regret not doing what u love the most in life if u stand back & hide in the shadows & let life pass u by just because some make u think u shouldn't be doing the things they r cause u like salt & they like pepper. jeff will thank u for being there for him & u will be proud of urself for not turning away a good & true friend out of peer pressure. good luck to u both.
2006-10-04 18:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by glorydvine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People change, *especially* in high school. And getting made fun of will sometimes change a person for the worse, too. Is Jeff still friendly to you? If so, do you really want to be accepted by the kind of people who make fun of him and will make someone else miserable for being different? I know it's hard, but please think about that.
Has Jeff come out to you? There's something you can do, if your school doesn't have one already. Start a Gay Straight Alliance. Kids will still make fun of you, mind, but at least y'all will also meet some other open-minded people and people going through the hassles.
I'm truly sorry that you're both going through this. *hug*
2006-10-04 18:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 03:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by gardy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many are like Jeff who is afraid to say it loud what they are and this is the big problem. Once you say it, then you feel sort of relieved and then you can be confident ofwhat you are and be proud of it. There is no problem but people around are dumb and they think being gay is being like a fool which they themselves are. You should support your friend whatever they say. And if he cannot talk about it to you, then try to talk to him in a pleasant and wise way. Try your best not to hurt him as he might be in a very sensible position...
2006-10-04 18:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
So what you want to go with you hedonism and leave a friend beacuse in the eyes of others he is unwanted unneeded. Sparing friends for image is sickening it happend with me all my life everyone goes oh no can't be caught with Josh he's Bipolar and talks about computers and video games all day blah.
2006-10-04 17:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by now_until_eternity 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Throw a 'tough' defensive wall around you & your friend and expand your circleof friends and as a group throw it back in their faces. Be defiant - - - encourage Jeff to take no c r a p from anyone on any issue - - - make it clear to Jeff that he should simply be HIMSELF shorn of labels of any sort. No one has the right to criticize him for a poorly perceived 'flaw' in his sexuality. Be strong for yourself and for your friends...
Peace...
2006-10-04 23:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by JVHawai'i 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay friends. it is horrible that people have to act that way, and he needs you now more than ever. he may not know how to handle the others, but if you don't stay close he will think you also are feeling like them. Hang in there.
2006-10-04 17:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stick with him and stay strong! he needs someone like that now, also, don't put up with any of the bull sh*t that you guys are getting, stand up to them and help him stand up to them!
look for people who support you, try to make friends that will help you. one homophobic bastard can't stand up to ten peolpe fighting against him
2006-10-04 19:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Narry 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he needs you to be his friend right now - but don't discuss his sexuality publicly if he doesn't want you to mention it...talk to him, tell him you are there for him ask him how you can help.
2006-10-04 18:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋