I had a gay friend he showed me some of the community very nice people, yet I truly know I'm straight but for even hanging out in the crowd I get labeled and I won't stop because of that but labeling is so uncool. I don't know I was maybe at a time attracted to a very small shy gay guy but thats what this is about. Very many questions.
2006-10-04 17:49:53 · 13 answers · asked by now_until_eternity 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well I tried gay sexx and I didn't like it 4sure. Most horrible experiance. I mean it was all oral/but I don't feel comfortably sexual with a man. Just I don't know if anyone knows what Yaoi is but theres a saying that goes everyones gay for yaoi. Its the cute shy males u don't wanna have sex with them its just their cute. Very cute yes lol. No I actually am not a sexual deviant. Don't always fixate on sex like 2 of my 3 gay friends do. The 3rd had post traumatic stress disorder and isolated himself I was his last friend he kept in contact with.
2006-10-04 18:11:19 · update #1
I don't understand your question. Are you asking if it is odd to find yourself attracted to one specific male friend? If that is the case I don't think that is very strange. I have had many straight male friends that have told me "If I were gay I would want to date someone like you", guys that I have had intimate moments - and by that I mean a very nice dance, holding hands, a hug, a kiss (not sex of any kind). There can be a closeness between two people that transcends sex, and intimacy deeper than sex.
2006-10-05 08:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Labeling isn't cool. I see it happen a lot. I have a lot of straight friends (male and female) that enjoy spending time more often around gay people and going to the bars/clubs and events, etc than they do around their fellow straight companions (which coincidently many of my straight friends that are married actually met while spending time with my gay friends and I!). As for being attracted to someone, if it isn't sexual then it isn't gay. If there is no sexual attraction then just means you are admiring the beauty of the person. Everyone does that. There are gay guys that admire the beauty of a woman, but that doesn't mean he has some sexual attraction to the woman.
I usually use the following example:
A flower - some flowers are pretty to some people and others aren't to some people. Every person can find the beauty in a flower of some kind. That doesn't mean the person wants to have a romantic relationship with the flower or even have sex with the flower. The beauty of the flower is there and a person recognizes the beauty for what it is, but doesn't have any other attraction beyond the beauty itself.
The same then applies to straight guys who may have an attraction to the beauty of a guy or a straight girl who may have an attraction to the beauty of the girl, but has no desire to have a romantic relationship or sex with the person. They don't feel that way about them. The same can be said about a gay guy that is attracted to the beauty of a girl or a gay girl that is attracted to the beauty of a guy...there is no romantic or sexual attraction, just the attraction...or perhaps realization...of beauty.
Of course perhaps in the small shy gay guy that you were drawn to/attracted to perhaps it was something about them you related to that attracted you to them, not something sexual, romantic...and it may not have even been beauty. Sometimes people are attracted to people not through beauty but through something they admire about the person or something that they relate to within the person (like a personality trait that either you have experienced or is just like you or that you wish you had).
It's an inner search you must do for answers. Look more deeply at the attraction, make a list of what it is you noticed that caused your attraction, what the level of attraction was, etc, etc, etc. You'll find the root of the attraction. You may very well find similar women that share this root of attraction that you often also date.
Great question.
Peace be with you.
2006-10-05 02:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_zachary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight, and I'm here. I'm curious to affiliate with this community for the same reason you're here: because the folks are responsive, thoughtful and kind. I don't doubt my sexuality either, and I know sooner or later association with this group (here or in daily life) may/will draw fire from antagonizers. What can I respond to that with? "Bring it on."
I didn't survive childhood to come into a realm where someone is still TRYING to bully me.
This stuff is junk, the way people get on others' cases before checking their own conduct. The issues over gay rights (to marry, to breathe) will come to more and more of a ... a ... head (heh-heh), so why not let's do what is in our hearts to do and exercise the rights we have and be as proud as the next guy. Jeez, all this head butting. Oh! Ha!
2006-10-05 09:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you can say for sure.
Honestly, if someone comes into our community with an open mind and a friendly smile, they will be welcomed with open arms. We don't enjoy being nasty or mean to people. We're just so used to non-gays being hateful and bigoted, so we sometimes come across as just as ugly as they haters can be.
The difference is we don't live our hate, we don't preach our hate, we don't train our children to hate. (and yes, many of us DO have children)
Our hate is only a mirror on what we've experienced from others.
I love meeting new people! I love blowing their minds when they find out I actually am a lesbian.
I don't "look the part" per se. I'm a fairly typical, feminine, suburban Mom with an artistic flair. I talk more about my son than what club or bar I've been to. So, when someone meets me at a GLBT community event or fund raiser, I'm usually assumed to be a "friend of the community" rather than an actual member.
I love changing people's opinions of our community, showing that we truly are a very diverse bunch.
It's great to see non-gays who support and even publicly socialize with the more "out" gays. I think it helps to encourage tolerance and understanding.
2006-10-05 02:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. The gay community can be great. Only a fool would believe that enjoying the company of a group of people means you want to have sex with them. I mean, really. So, you hang with christians because you like them. Does it mean you sleep with them? Or say you enjoy hanging with computer geeks after work.... or sports groups.... Nah. All it means is that you like them socially, not intimately. Relax. You can be attracted very much to women but still enjoy the non-sexual company of gays and lesbians. Lol, we do that with the straight community all the time!
2006-10-05 01:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a straight female. I would LOVE to have a gay male friend! (I live in a medium sized Kentucky town and most people are in the closet.) Gay men are so funny and honest! (It doesn't have to be male only, female would be fine too! lol) I think anyone that excludes a person based on their sexual preference are missing out on some great people.
2006-10-05 00:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by twest 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you truly know you're straight but you were "maybe" attracted to a guy? Sounds like you are curious or bi, maybe... Anyhow, perhaps the gay community is more accepting and open minded than other groups, and this is what you find attractive about them.
2006-10-05 01:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could be bi or just a gay/lesbian ally. supporting the group of people or hanging out with them doesnt make you gay or change yer sexuality at all. if your interested in helping the gay community or finding other supporters or gay friends, find a GLBT group in yer area.
2006-10-05 01:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by allidoisenough 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God says ask away, but don't ask here. You're just going to get lots of crap answers from stupid people. Don't let it put you off and weed through them. There will be some gems there!
2006-10-05 00:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by God 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
now_until_eternity,
Hey dude. Welcome. Have you considered that you are Bi? or Bi-curious?
But the thing is, once you expose yourself to that possibility of doing a same sex thing, it can stay with you. You'll never quite get it out of your head.
Just being honest.
2006-10-05 01:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋