My ex broke up with me nearly 3 months ago.We were together 8 years?The breakup was always repairable and she needed time to clear her head without seeing me. Over the last 3 weeks we have been dating again and working on rebuilding our relationship taking things slowly and making sure things are right between us and previous issues have been rectified.Last night after a great night out together i initiated some fun and we ended up having great sex.We were both completely into it and the "i love you's" were thrown around aswell.She ended up staying over and sleeping in my bed and we fell asleep together chatting like we used to.This does not mean we are back together yet. I really love and care about her and want nothing more than for this to work out between us but want to know peoples opinions on this. Can sex ruin the rebuilding process or enhance it and do things sounds just as positive to you guys as it feels to me?Thanks for your answers in advance?
2006-10-04 17:38:15 · 9 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
awwwwwwwwwww so sweet i love happy ending you'll get back together 8 yrs being together is a really long time sex shouldn't matter it doesn't to me good luck :)
2006-10-04 17:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are BOTH committed to rebuilding the relationship it should be OK. Don't sell yourself short and allow yourself to be used and then hurt just for sex. Society says it is crazy for a man to say what I just said and that we should always be about the sex, but society is wrong. If you want a committed relationship then you need commitment from both parties. Sex DOES NOT equal commitment. Sex can be a sign of commitment or even a celebration of commitment, but it can also just be about being horny and lonely. If you guys have already been together 8 years and you still want to be with her, than I say commit already. Don't question it, just commit, commit, commit. If it doesn't work, you'll never have to look back and kick your own *** for not committing.
2006-10-04 17:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends are you able to keep the focus on the relationship rebuilding or the sex?
2006-10-04 17:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is like a quick fix especaily in this case. really how slow can you take it if you been togetger for eight years. you guys need to talk and talk some more. if its something that hasnt been changed already, there needs to be a different next step..... a true break up
2006-10-04 17:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Highly Favored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great physical relationship, though critical, is not the end all be all of a great all around relationship.
2006-10-04 17:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by sunseekerrv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sounds like she is trying to get the feel to see if things are still right for the two of you. i think you need to ask her and tell her you don't want to be holding on to something that's not going to be there anymore.
2006-10-04 17:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by mitchell38954 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will most def help, but if i were you i would let her ask or give you the hints that she wants the sex, dont make it seem like you want sex bad cause she might get the wrong vibe like your just trying to get with her again for the sex
2006-10-04 17:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both had a great night....keep positive and don't over-analyze. Do I hear wedding bells...hmmm????
2006-10-04 17:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by freedom4ni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,go ahead
2006-10-04 17:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋