A group of friends and I are going to rent a house to live in next year and we want to have 4 people to split the rent, but the guy we want to be #4 just wants to continue to live at home. We'll all be juniors in college and he's still sharing a room with his little brother. He says money isn't the issue, but we cannot convince him that living in a house is a good thing. Your thoughts?
2006-10-04 17:37:49 · 10 answers · asked by im.in.college.so.i.know.stuff 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I think your friend knows what is best for him. He may rather stay with someone else than stay w/ his friends b/c sometimes your friends can seriously get you off track. or maybe he has some issues at home that he needs to take care of but doesn't feel comfortable telling u guys.
2006-10-04 17:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably worried that he'll lose focus on schoolwork. That would be a party house. Plus, maybe he knows you guys (all 4 of ya) won't be able to keep the place clean or he's worried about some freaky party where the cops are called, someone has a joint, you end up in jail for the night....etc etc.
And money is an issue it always is. If you guys can swing the 3-way rent, do it and leave the invite open to him...he may change his mind after a couple of months.
2006-10-04 17:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by shogun_316 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, because of this i imagine it really is maximum proper for 18 year olds, even if or not they are going to a community college or no longer, to move out even as they graduate intense college. someone can continually stay interior the community dorms in school or employ an position of residing. for sure that expenditures money and it ought to be planned for. the concern is, even as childrens stay at domicile previous the organic age, resentment is the authentic result, and it is going and is accessible in both guidelines. What you describe doesn't quite seem all that undesirable, I advise you have to be reasonable, a 20 year previous college scholar with a g/f should not be doing chores round the domicile. i do not locate that magnificent in any respect. yet back, it really is the position the resentment is accessible in. he's paying no longer something, so that you more beneficial or a lot less anticipate some minimum aspect of appreciation, that you do not get, even with a small volume of elementary chores. yet imagine in case you individuals had set issues up, no longer in an unfavourable way, yet merely set him up in the previous to move out, stay in dorms, stay in an position of residing with pals to maintain the employ down or maybe if would paintings. you doesn't be bothered through, what in all actual in all fairness conventional habit, and he will be getting to entice close duty. you're making life TOO straightforward for him once you enable him stay employ loose without committments. yet at the same time i visit't quite see charging someone in his portion of life employ to stay at domicile. it really is why I say, get them out even as they turn 18, and that solves this worry-free situation that there quite is not any reasonable answer for. you should actually have helped him if he necessary 50 greenbacks for employ some month, that's nonetheless more beneficial positive than the stress and animosity that you're experiencing.
2016-10-16 03:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have traded my college experience for anything. I lived in the dorms, so I was out of my parents' house. However I do think that there would have been some major advantages to living at home. For one... Mom's cooking. Also I think my grades would have been CONSIDERABLY better had I been further removed from college-life distractions. (However college-life distractions were wonderful and are how I met my husband!)
Obviously it is up to your friend. I hope it all turns out well for all of you!
2006-10-04 17:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can't force people to do something that they don't want to.
Moving out is a very big deal, and alot of things change, and some people just aren't ready for it.
However, when you do leave, you get to eat whatever you want, go and do whatever you want with no curfew. You learn things about yourself that you didn't know before. Its fun and exciting and you get to meet alot of new people.
It's possible he feels obligated to watch over his little brither so he doesn't get into trouble.
Whatever he decides, I hope you respect his decision. :)
2006-10-04 17:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjeansntee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how far you guys are from the college. If he really wants to live at home, just find another person, I guess. Although if my home were close to my college, I'd stay there- more quiet.
2006-10-04 17:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with friends if your parents suports you financially and distance of ur house to ur college
2006-10-04 17:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by -PaRadoX- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having your own place is so much more fun. you feel more independant also. its the first step to becoming who you will be for the rest of your life!!
2006-10-04 17:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to get out of his house and learn how to live on his own...
2006-10-04 17:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by michmd 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
HOME SWEET HOME !!!!!
2006-10-04 17:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by ~♥~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋