My sister slept with my best friends husband should i tell my friend?

Question

Or should i stay out of it my sister has no idea i know about them neither does my friend. Need some advice

Answer 1

No, you should not tell your friend, it is really none of your business, but you can talk with your sister and let her know how you feel about it. That will take it out of your arena and put it back in hers.

Answer 2

Your sister or your best friend, who's side to be on. Well you sister is your blood and will be with you for life, your friend most likely wont. But this does not change the fact that your sister did something wrong. If you tell you friend, she might see you as the cause of the problem since the connection between your friends husband ans your sister is you. You could possibly ruin you friendship forever. There is no good outcome but i think the best way to go is to confront your sister and try to guilt her into telling the truth. She can give the husband a choice, either he tells his wife what he did or your sister will. That way the truth comes out and you stay out of the heat. No one should be played like a fool like that.

Answer 3

Wow. I've read a lot of messed up scenarios, but this one takes the cake. You're in quite a situation. Best friend vs. sister. You have to really think about how much this is sitting on YOUR shoulders. Are you really able to just let this slide? Look in your best friends eyes and hear her talk about her wonderful hubby? I couldn't do it. On the other hand, this is your sister, not some random female. Sounds like you need to talk about this with one of them. I would definetly go for talking this out with your sister before I would mention it to the friend. Tell your sister that you know and that SHE needs to be the one to tell this girl. She made a huge mistake, and I'm sure she knows this girl is your best friend, right. This would sound a whole lot better if you said your sister was obliviated by alcohol and wishes she had her glasses on and not her beer goggles (exaggeration...). If she doesn't want to tell the friend, then it still comes back on you, but at least you've confided in one of the affected parties. This is hard to tell you what you should do. I think a lot of it is that you'll have to do some real soul searching. I honestly feel for you. And I don't even know you.

Answer 4

This is touchy and I'd be very careful how I handled it.

Before you tell your friend you should confront your sister and tell her you know and ask her not to do it again. That might or might not work.

Your friend and her husband have got some problems and they may already know that. It could have been a lapse on his part or it might signal a problem, but that is for them to resolve. Your bearing the bad news may ruin the friendship you value.

You will have to weigh all of these things, and decide which course is the best to take. I would certainly take some sort of action but would try to spare my friend's feelings.

Answer 5

Reverse the role, say your best friends sis slept with your hubby or bf. Would you want your friend to let you know or keep her sister's secret.

And if she found out that you know what your sis did but you didn't tell her, could you still be as strong a friends?

Friendship is built on trust, and is easy to break down but very hard to rebuild. But be very sure you can testify that you sister and your friend-in-law(?) did knock boots and that you aren't getting it from hearsay.

imho, I think I would want my best friend to tell me if my bro and wife slept together. I would be shocked, probably angry, want to know how they knew, why they didn't tell me sooner.

Best wishes on your decision.

Answer 6

That is a tough spot to be in. I would tell the husband of your best friend that you know what is going on and either he puts an end to his running around or you will tell his wife. Hopefully he will see the error of his ways and stop. If not, and you decide to tell your friend what you know, be prepared to have both your sister and your best friend angy with you. If it was me I would want you to tell me. There are things out there now you can die from and she cannot protect herself if she doens't know what is going on. Good luck on your decision!!!

Answer 7

Who's your main concern? Your sister? Or your bestfriend? But if I were you, I suggest you talk to your sister because what she did was wrong. She has no respect for herself at all! Sleeping with someone else's husband? Can she not get herself her own guy? And as for your bestfriend, don't tell her anything. But if you really want to tell your bestfriend about it, think. Think of what could be the outcome if you tell your bestfriend what YOUR sister did.

Answer 8

You should talk to your sister and tell her she is (whatever bad name you can think of). Ask her if she would like someone sleeping with her husband when she gets married. I feel sorry for your friend because no doubt he will continue being unfaithful. But I wouldn't tell her, at least not yet.

Answer 9

What would you want your best friend to do if things were reversed?Would you want her to tell you?No one likes being a sucker and there is STD"S to think about .Your sister made her bed.I'm assuming SHE knew your best friend was the WIFE.Look at the position she put you in.Wrong is Wrong whether blood-relations are involved or not.

Answer 10

i think you should let your sister and your best friends husband know that you know and threaten them that you will tell your best mate if they don't tell her themselves. so your sis will be pissed at you for a while but she will get over it and find another guy to sleep with. since she don't care if he is married or not so it will be easy for her to find someone else. plus your friend will be greatful that she found out.