It seems like since my husband and i were married, there is no more sensuality to our sex lives. Its pretty quick and we both orgasm, but...i remember the days with hour long love making...just being close to each other. I miss that...we love each other so much, but i feel like the love has disappeared from our sex life.
2006-10-04 17:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by photofemale810 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He works and goes to school full time, so i've learned to accept that sex is a weekend thing...toys don't interest him, lingerie only works sometimes, and i once tryed handcuffs and blind folding, and he used the safety to get outta the handcuffs and remove the blindfold before i even get started...its hard sometimes, i know he works hard and gets tired, but sometimes when i try new things, i feel pretty rejected and don't want to try them anymore...
2006-10-04 17:29:32 · update #1
Well i did have one success story to report. I wrote him a really sexy email when he was at work...saying everything i wanted us to do, and then when he got home, we did it all. Best sex i've had in a LONG time!
2006-10-07 01:56:25 · update #2
You guys could get off and then start again... ?? Or Maybe try something totally new. A new postion or somewhere exciting? Try to work it up all day some how.. Maybe saying stuff to one another often and going out to eat and make love in the back seat in the drive way? Fun stuff like when you were still dating or something.
Good luck!
2006-10-04 17:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Marriage does change quite some after you have been married for many years. It gets less and less exiting but you can get that spark back by doing different things like dressing up for him, talking kinky to him, do things that you use to do when you first met him. Try having just a weekend without kids if you have any and spend the time in the bedroom. Good luck
2006-10-05 00:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because life happened! you both settled into a routine....wake up, go on with your day, bedtime rolls around and you probably associate your bed with night night and no longer a place where sex is fun....
Try other rooms in your house, on the couch, in the kitchen..etc. get that exciting spark back. This may sound to personal, but my husband and I were out a few weeks ago, and as we were driving I started to give him...you know, and wow did that excite both of us! we ended up parking somewhere and it was great.. since then, we've made more time for each other and got that romance back into the bedroom. We tried some new things...
Go for it!
2006-10-05 00:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by graphixgirlin06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set aside a few hours and surprise him with some serious lovemaking. Get creative. If you like toys, get toys. If you like massages, give massages. If you do yoga, then put your legs behind your head and give him the sex eyes. I'm serious! Whips, chains, bells, handcuffs, whistles, yo-yos, doobies, public places, whatever it takes.
And do try to time it so that you're not disappointed (e.g. don't set aside a couple love-hours RIGHT after a 16-hour workday, ya know?)
2006-10-05 00:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if there is lack of communication in a relationship than it creates a distnce between the two of you, causing you all to not have as much feelings with each other. So your sex life won't be as interesting and exciting to pleasing each other.
2006-10-05 00:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by kadeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That what marriage is about is so normal no disco no fun.
Try to be like kids and the spontaneous time maybe come back.
2006-10-05 00:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should get some toys for the bedroom to livin things up a bit
2006-10-05 00:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
work on it, u guys should talk about it. have u got children? sometimes d hustle and bustle of raising children drains u guys. u seem to have a good relationship, just talk about it.
2006-10-05 00:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to spice it up. Sexy lingerie, oils, games, role playing...whatever it takes.
2006-10-05 00:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck, when you figure it out, post it and let us other long marrieds know how to do it.
2006-10-05 01:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋