Today is our 3rd anniversary and I did not receive anything from my husband. I know we're tight on money right now and I don't care about expensive gifts. But it would be nice to get a card, flower, hershey's kiss, a hug.... I did get a pat on the head, kiss and "happy anniversary" this a.m. when he got up. But that's all. This really is not unusual for him. This year - nothing on Valentines Day (granted we put our son in the hopsital that afternoon) and nothing on my birthday 6 days later (the day my son got out of the hospital. But again, not unusual. BUT I thought I'd made it clear that it would be nice to get SOMETHING! He did mention today that without this day 3 years ago we wouldn't have our son today. In case you're wondering I didn't get him anything today either. I did cook supper, which I never do. I used to buy him cards, write him notes, etc for special day and nonspecial days but he could care less and it would be trashed. Am I being ridculous?
2006-10-04 17:16:44 · 17 answers · asked by product_of_our_society 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO. you deserve it.
2006-10-04 17:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no to you its important most women want that i can understand your wishes and thoughts on the matter.
As you said money is tight but yes he could certainly get you a card or 5.oo flowers. yet he doesn't seem mean. you said he remembered on his own and pet you on the head this morning and gave you a kiss .
I say he's just not into that sort of stuff. some guys are oblivious to that sort of thing. Just like when we get our hair done or a new oufit they dont' notice..
You have to let him know thats though its no big deal to him. You would very much appreciate that in the future valentines birthdays wedding anniversary mean a lot to you and let him know he doesn't have to do anything extravagent something simple will do but that its important to you and makes you feel special and your marriage special.
I'm sure he wants to make you happy and he'll be happy to try that out. Just as you would for something that was important to him. sometimes guys just need you to tell them they can ' t read our minds
Good luck
2006-10-05 01:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok instead of expecting something on holidays why dont You give him a nice candle light dinner at home and call it a day if your tight on money. Your not being ridculous you just a women. He sounds like a man that still doesnt know that us women are so damn sentimental when it comes to these things, so let him know how you feel and let him know that a kiss on the cheek would be better than a card. The best things are unseen, thats why we close are eyes when we kiss, cry and dream. Just be happy that you still have him.
2006-10-05 00:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by wonder woo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I believe that if you know that your husband loves you and it has been a good 3 years then the hell with man made tresures. He didn't forget, which most men do and you know that money is tight right now. Also you didnt break your back to buy him a gift either, although I am sure you cooked a great meal which he enjoyed since you never cook. But with all that said you still are entitled to be a little upset. Dnt wnt to sound as if I am contradicting myself but every woman wants to feel special on days like this. But if you truly love your husband and are happy let it go.
2006-10-05 00:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Teapot23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. But since you are tight on money right now, that might explain why he hasn't given you any anniversary gift. But he did give you a kiss and greeted you and that means a lot! Because it means he still remembers your anniversary. And you should be happy for that. If you wanna have a peace of mind, you can just simply ask him playfully if he has something for you on your anniversary. That's it. Ask. Communicate. Okay? Good luck!
2006-10-05 00:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if he was like this before you married him. (Only you will know that.) If he was, then yes, you are being ridiculous in expecting anything from him. If this is the case, you settled when you married him, because you want something from him that you know he wasn't giving to you in the past. There is no surprise here. Why do so many women settle for a jerk when they get married and then get angry and hurt when the man continues as before and there are no surprises?
If he did not used to be like this, then your are not being ridiculous in wanting or expecting this. I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-05 00:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by ajgier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. It really is not the gift that you are craving it is the appreciation that he feels for you. Tell him how sad you feel because he did not put the effort in trying to make that special day special. You two could of at least went to an inexpensive dinner out. I would really have a set down talk with him and tell him how much this hurts you.
2006-10-05 00:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey please, at least he said happy anniversary, so meaning, he remembers it. My husband never gave me our whole seven years together anything at all. The only thing i ever got, was a ring, and that was it. He never ever bought me a single rose, a card, or anything, for my birthday, valentines day, anniversaries, and christmas. Worst of all, he doesn't spend any of those days with me, its with his friends.
2006-10-05 00:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Girlish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really surprised at your husband's behavior or are you rather disappointed because you wish for something else? You seem to know him very well, you say that you expected and anticipated his behavior, so, if you knew this about him, why in the world did you marry him? If you do not like his behavior, divorce him and get yourself someone Else who meets your expectations!
2006-10-05 00:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by He Coon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are expecting too much from him.i think he is under some tension and he is not discussing with u..try to release his mind from tension...........as u said he is not responding to u as before so no problem u try to respond to him.........when he comes back in the evening before he arrives dress urself nicely and arrange a candle light dinner at home.....and spray his favourite perfume and make an atmosphere and wish from ur side also to him ur anniversary.as u said he is not behaving like before may be he is also thinking the same way..that u r not behaving like before.may he like ur writing notes and sending cards to him.......so dont take tension enjoy ur evening and make him realise when his mood is good that u r expecting his love and affection and some small gifts as well.........
good luck
2006-10-05 00:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by daisy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was always the "thought" that counted? Maybe getting presents for u is not his kind of thing. At least he remembered your anniversary and greeted u.
2006-10-05 00:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋