I'm depressed and as a result of it I'm going down a path that i shouldn't be going down!?

Question

I feel just alone Im not having much luck with friends anywere I go now im in a new school and i feel really out of place and even after a year and a half i still am having trouble with makng freinds i feel like im just not affable and i feel like a weirdo and i think i have gotten myself a reputation of being one just because i try to fit in and fail and make myself look stupid but nobody knows who i really am im fun loving and really funny and can be a good friend and now i feel that im being perverted and cold because i feel that im in a helpless position and will never have freinds please help me!!!!

Answer 1

Is something wrong with your attitude towards people, or making friends? Figure it out. Trying too hard, no idea what to say in conversations? Work on the issue.

You have to try to be more open, and learn confidence. When you feel confident, you feel beautiful, are more open, and can easily make friends! Say hi to someone you've seen for awhile, pick up a conversation. I got to know people I met at bus stops!

Suggestions given by others such as joining clubs is a good idea, and I find churches a good place to meet new people. You don't have to be religious, but some of the words are meaningful, some common sense, and some you can totally ignore. It may even help you through this time.

I don't get what you mean by 'perverted'. If you have started touching people, stop it. People may feel violated, and especially if they don't know you. Actually, don't do it at all!

You say you're fun-loving, and funny. (: That's a wonderful point which I find in people. Show others that image of yourself. Stop fitting in, it doesn't help you. You possibly feel weird because it isn't YOU. Be with people who appreciate your fun-loving style and humour. Looking stupid isn't your downfall, it's FEELING that you look stupid that causes your downfall.

Give a SMILE,
Be YOURSELF,
Have CONFIDENCE,

&the best of luck towards finding a new friendship!

Answer 2

Dear depressed, I completely understand how your feeling. After a year and you still are feeling this way it may be time to talk to your parents about getting some counciling. And let me reassure you counciling is nothing to be ashamed about. Its just someone you can talk honestly to that will understand and give you some advice. I'm bi-Polar and I used to be ashamed, but when it started causing problems in my life thank the Lord for a friend suggesting I see a psychiatrist. And I really don't think I'd be here now to try a help you if I hadn't starting some medications and having someone to talk to freely.. With depression it can usually be cured with minor medication and having someone to talk to. As far as making friends there is 2 things I just need to say. 1 is I think your worring & trying to hard to fit in. When the others see this despiration they will do the opposite of what you want & need. Also 2 if you are so depressed you can't turn it off as soon as you walk into your school doors. I'm sure the others see this and get the complete wrong impression of who you really are. You say you know your a fun loving person then think serious about the counsilor and medication. I promise the right medication will do wonders and before you know it yourself and all the other students will see the difference in you. Just remember when the depression lifts and that wonderfully kind happy person reimerges those other students will flock to you, at least the ones that matter enough to let them become your friends. Just talk to your parents because if they have any intrest in what your going through at school they would jump through hoops to help you with anything you need. A parents biggest fear is the fact of not knowing what their children are going through and if their doing it alone. They so much want their children to be able to come to them in times of strife. So depressed, I ask you to try what I've suggested. If you try it and you find it's not your thing then at least you can know you tried & right now in your situation you really have nothing to loose in trying. Just try and stick it out because depression meds take anywhere from 4-6 weeks to really work so at least stick that long. But I promise, you will start feeling better about all the depressing situations and those situations that used to matter so much will begin to matter less & you'll have a completely different outlook with life & your school situation.

Answer 3

Well what i do when i get to a new environment like new school new places, i just have the internet be my friend and most of my friends are always online. Then i usually go around analyse the people around me to see who is moore approacheable and who cannot be a long term friend. basically i really got this problem cause i always have some self entertainment (xbox, world of warcraft,etc...) so try it play a game or something and study u might dont need them after all

Answer 4

Mendy... most of us have been there at one time or another. No set and dried answers for social problems. I know it's trite but you have to find some way of not obsessing on MAKING friends instead of BEING one.

Try not to FORCE things. What are things and/or activities you DO like... stay involved in them until people see how well you handle them, because they're likely things you'll do more naturally. Also, try some uncomplicated things that you haven't done... you may find excitement in some things unfamiliar.

When people sense you're getting comfortable with yourself, some will grow to be more at ease with you as well.....

Answer 5

it's all in your head, u have to find a way to get over your insecurities, maybe your just trying too hard to please the peolpe you meet instead of being who you are ......... just stop trying to be someone your not........ i resently went trough the same thing the only thing i did different is I stopped talking so much. instead u should listen to what other people have to say. maybe their not even the people u need to be friends with............about the depression, depression is nothing but an idea a thought that makes u feel not capable, instead of thinking about you not being able to fit in go out and do the things that make u happy............don't waste your time being sad your happiness depends only on you not the people that surround u....remember it can't be cloudy every day

Answer 6

You sound so much like me at your age. Is there a school counselor you can talk to? Things changed for me when I went to college. Can you find anyone else that feels like an outsider too? Maybe you could make friends with them. Try to get involved in clubs and activies where you can interact with people more. You will make friends. It just takes time.

Answer 7

What are your interests? I suggest taking a class or joining a group where people will share an interest with you and do your best to meet some people there. Loneliness is an awful feeling. I'm sure there's someone who you'll connect with and you can start a small circle f friends that way.

Answer 8

Ahh I felt just like you in highschool dude. About Pervesions Your Proally looking a PRON which is bad and unsocial. Cold ahh your just shy. Hey dude I'm 19 in college and in college people don't pick on ya bud. Cheer up. Need help don't do anything harsh IM me a [e-mail] or a call a depression help line.

Answer 9

Stay on the right path and don't engage in anything you don't want to do. Don't be a follower, start being a leader. You will regret it in the long run. The heck with your stupid friend, find true friends outside of school.

Answer 10

talk to me, IM me something, we could be friends to start out with. Then I could help you out with making friends that will trully appretiate your friendship. Just to let you know how to contact me, click on my picture, I have links directly to my IM and e-mail even to my yaho 360 page. I try most of my day's 2 B on IM much as posible
don't think I'm ignor'n you most of the time, it's the crappy service I'm dealing with, not a good resiption I have