2006-10-04 16:56:31 · 23 answers · asked by spttrans 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmmmm... I suggest personal therapy. I think it might help. Talk to her more and tell her why it is wrong.
2006-10-04 16:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your daughter will need all your love and support she can. Her home must feel safe to her. Your her mother you love your daughter no matter what right? and not everyone out there will be nice to her .Some people can still be mean and cold out there. You havent' lost your daughter she still the daughter you know her personality her likes and dislikes this won't change its just that shes attracted to the same sex. but that doesn't mean you love her any less. Its important for her to know that she can come to you and be open. So I woudlnt flip out and make her feel she's wrong. This is who she is. and if you can accept this.you and your daughter will have a good relationship in life.
And how do you cope with this?.. perhaps if this is bothering you alot you can talk to gay parent groups and other parents who have been through this they will be of most help to you. you can find them on the internet go to chat rooms and discuss things, or yellow pages. You can also talk to your doctor about this with what ever feelings your having about this. You know what it is about now. and the sooner you can feel better about it yourself the better everyone will be. and she'll feel better to. Just keep the communication lines open with her. And love her the same exact way as you do now. She's your darling baby.
All the best. you will be okay. :-)
2006-10-04 17:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to cope with. She is still your daughter and that is the way God made her. Love her like you always have. Sit down and talk to her you may learn something.
God Bless.
Mother with a Gay daughter
2006-10-04 17:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by xpsychonannyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still the daughter you loved before she came out. It means she loves and trusts you. If you're having a hard time with this, contact PFLAG - Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
They will give you a great deal of info and support. If you are a churchgoing person, check out Metropolitan Community Church, there may be one in your area.
If you have any questions, feel free to email me. Just click on my name by this entry.
This could be the start of a whole new, and wonderful, aspect to your relationship with your child.
And, DO NOT listen to Aznpride, above. It is NOT wrong to be Gay.
2006-10-04 17:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still the same person.All that really matters is that she is happy right?One's own sexuality is just that,,their own.Why do we really care about anothers choice if they are consenting adults & not being harmed in any way?Be happy that she is in good health.You are a good mother for caring & she a good daughter for being honest.You listened & she felt that she could talk to you.Im not gay but have some gay friends.There are good & bad in every walk of life.It will be ok.
2006-10-04 17:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I wouldn't beat myself up over it. I think you want to find out how your daughter came to this realization. Don't interrogate and don't judge. Don't ask why. Your daughter needs your love now as much she did before she told you. She is not asking for your approval or permission.
This is possibly emotional upheaval for you as it came out of left field. Try to avoid the denial that sometimes comes with these kind of events. We are dealing with love here which is a plus on any level. Don't forget that.
2006-10-04 17:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her, you don't want to lose your daughter no matter what her sexual orientation may be.you love her unconditionally.you may not feel it is "right" but you just need to talk to her and see where she stands at this point let her know how you feel w/o putting her down.All in all just let her know you love her.for all you know it may be a phase but live everyday like it is b/c if it stays this way you will only be disappointed. Just except it, it make some time and let her know that but also let her know you appreciate her honesty and you love her for who she is not who she may fall in love with or who she may sleep with.the main thing: that she is happy and true to herself
2006-10-04 17:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by destinymoon_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the love, support, and guideness that you would as a mother/father with any other situation.
Love her because she is your daughter. Do not hate her for her sexuality. She did not ask to be born, and she did not ask to be a lesbian.
2006-10-04 17:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that must have been really hard to hear. But i guess if it was one of my kids i would try to deal with it, because i love them no matter what !! But i would let them know excatly where i stand, and wouldn't except their gay partner around. At least no kissing each other ect...
2006-10-04 17:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be supportive for her and give it time it may just be a faze or if it's the real deal she will need support as it isn't eazy to come out and after all she is still your daughter and it's not like she told you she's a prostitute or doing something else dangerous!
2006-10-04 17:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to her, give her a big hug, look her in eyes, tell her that she will always be your baby nothing can change that, tell her that you love her and you will always be her mommy even long after her soul burns in eternal damnation. Then give her a kiss on the cheek and continue making dinner.
ps I'm joking, ,, , , , ,, , , , , never kiss a lesbian.
2006-10-04 17:10:33 · answer #11 · answered by theblessedknower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋