yeah well as it says any tips on babies in general i guess i hav no idea wat to do or wat im doing..ppl are telling me to talk to the baby but what does that hav to do with anything...? and wats the proper way to hold a baby??? anyway can u help.. btw im a guy so..can u not leave lik breast feeding stuff or w.e on it..thanks
2006-10-04 16:49:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok..lol few things i wanna get straight..
1) babys lik i think a few weeks lik 2 maybe not sure
2) shes not my ...wife..im 16 im not married..
3) shes not my gf either so..yeah the dinner cooking thing wat was up wit dat?
2006-10-04 16:58:40 · update #1
lol the mom dint ditch me with the baby ...i was bout to ditch her..but then i have nowhere to go.. -.- so yeh sucks =(
2006-10-05 12:57:00 · update #2
Always hold the back of the head and give support to the back. Be gentle and carful but sure.
Babies like familiar sounds like the heart beat. Hold the baby close to your chest. Just love him and he will respond. Sit with the baby, make eye contact. for infants sing to him and read to him. Rock him, dance with him, walk around the room with him. Once the baby starts to grow more he will laugh back and play with you. You will have more interaction.
Try not to hold the baby in your arms while he ia sleeping or too much for that matter because he will get used to it and you will have a hard time putting him down to do other things. He will cry the minute you put him down.
Changing:
When changing keep supplies near, on the changing table or bed. If the diaper is "soiled" use the top part that covers the front to scoop the poop off the butt a little. Lift the baby's butt slightly and close that dirty diaper together. Use wipes to finish cleaning the baby and slide clean diaper under.
Feeding:
Make sure that the milk is not too hot by testing it on the inner part your arm or on the back of your hand. If the bottle is too hot place it in a cup of cold water for a minute or two. If the temp is right, feed the baby and stop after a little bit to burp the baby. Burp by lifting the baby on your shoulder and patting the back.
They don't come with manuals but everything comes pretty naturally. You can also get a book or rent a tape from the library or video store. Also take a que from mom.
Good Luck!
2006-10-04 17:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by ☺Inquisitive 1☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies need to be held, cuddled and talked to. It is actually proven that if you take care of all a baby's physical needs but not these emotional ones, the baby will not thrive and may wind up brain damaged or dead. So, talking to your baby is important because this is a basic need of human beings. It is also how he will learn to talk. A baby's neck is not strong enough to hold up his head, so you need to cradle him close to you and support his head at all times. Many babies feel more secure if they are swaddled, that is, if you wrap their body in a thin blanket instead of just letting their arms and legs hang out. When the baby cries, he might need food or a diaper change, or be too cold. he could also have gas or another problem you pretty much will not be able to solve...so, try your best but sometimes he will just cry. Sometimes a parent who like you knows nothing about babies, will shake a crying baby in frustration and not think this is harmful. Shaking a baby bounces its brain around in its head and is often deadly, so don't do this. As babies grow into toddlers and young children, they learn gradually about their world, and don't instantly understand things the way adults do. This can be hard for dads, because many dads, like yourself, can only picture a kid of 5 or older and have no clue about babies and toddlers. This can lead to an abusive situation if you get mad or frustrated at your child, because you don't realize he is acting normal for his age (toddlers especially can be very infuriating to adults). Your baby will need your patience for many years. It would probably be a good idea to try to find a class on baby care and child development in your area, because there is a lot more to learn than you can find on yahoo answers.
Above all your being there is very important, even if you are not perfect. Boy or girl, children do not do nearly as well without their Dad. And of course the best way to make sure you are not shut out is to be good to the Mom, so if you want to argue bite your tongue. Pregnancy hormones take 3 or 4 months to calm down, so if she was evil while pregnant she probably will still be for awhile. Your best gift you can give to your baby is to be there as much as possible, even if you are just standing there staring at the kid and looking dumb.
2006-10-05 00:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a great book called "What to Expect: The First Year." It takes you through the baby's life a month at a time and it has some great tips.
If you don't have the baby yet, don't worry; the nurses at the hospital will help you learn how to hold it, change it, bathe it, etc. They did that for me and even though I was comfortable around babies, it made me feel a lot better.
Babies are pretty sturdy, even though they don't look it! As long as you are careful with the head and neck, you'll be fine.
2006-10-04 23:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by BasketChick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should cradle the baby in your arms. Talking to the baby is a good way to have a good relation ship with him. More you talk to him more he likes you. Some babys like warm milk so you could heat up some milk to be warm not hot in a soup pan and put it in a bottle. If the baby has a horrible 'doody' wrap a scarf around your face so you dont smell it. Dont make your wife do all the work, share it evenly. If she wants to play with the baby you make supper. You should let your wife rest when she needs it so you should take care of him. Hope it helps.
2006-10-04 23:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Alex S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Dr. Spocks (Seriously) book on raising children, it will tell you much.
You should also not only be talking to your baby all the time, but you should read to it, play music for it, and otherwise engage it in a social aspect. This helps their learning abilities later in life.
As far as holding, as long as you have a good grip on him/her where he/she won't fall out of your arms, you're ok. Just make sure you keep it's head supported at all times because baby's do not have enough strength in their necks to hold up their heavy little heads.
Good luck, and cheers for being a dad who's actually concerned about this stuff...
2006-10-04 23:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by iswd1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you probably feel like a fool talking to the baby, but that is what you need to do. Don't focus on the people around you. Just focus on the baby and talk to him/her. Not goo goo stuff, but hey, what's up? How's things? Talk in a soothing voice and just talk about your day if nothing else. They love the sound of voices and the more you talk, the more they will learn your sound. I always talked to my babies like people and am doing the same with my 16 mo granddaughter. Her parents are amazed at how much she understands when I talk.
Don't be afraid to ask for help. None of us knew how until we learned &/or asked.
2006-10-04 23:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off this is y teenagers souldn't be allowed to date. 2nd i feel sry for u. 3rd the baby needs formula until age two not cow milk. boil the baby's bottle until it is warm. (test on ur arm to c if it is too hot.) i have 3 siblings so i know all about babies. try getting it on a regular bedtime around 3-4months. how to hold the baby? well place one hand on the babie's head and support it so it doesn't get injured. and carefully put ur other arm underneath it with ur hand on it's side. talking to it all that does is reassures the baby and helps it learn ur voice. where is the mother in all this? did she just dump the kid on u? i hope this helps.
2006-10-05 13:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold the baby with just his diaper on against your bare chest. Put him under your shirt or put a blanket over him. Sit in a very comfortable chair or lay in the bed with him this way. Give it plenty of time and just bond with him this way. Find some experienced parents to help advice you on the basic stuff. You'll figure it out. Cavemen did it, you can do it too.
2006-10-04 23:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm where is the mother?? and why are you being left alone with a baby if you dont know what the hell you are doing... i got a few ideas for you.....
-Take a parenting class (much more likely to help you out, rather then getting answers from people on here!!)
OR...
-Call the public health nurse, she will teach you how to take care of a baby... properly, she will come to your house and show you the proper way to hold a baby!!! (Cradle the baby in your arms with head supported by your elbow... the crease in your arm)
Please go do one of those options immediatly!!
2006-10-04 23:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Romy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, let me commend you for wanting to care for your baby. You said you are 16 and your baby's mother is not your girlfriend. So many young men would shirk their responsibilities based on just ONE of those factors. I advise you to seek out some infant care classes. Check with your local hospitals--infant care is usually offered through their Obstetrics department. The Red Cross also has an excellent first aid program for infants.
2006-10-05 07:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋