him of financial responsibility. He says it's so he doesn't feel trapped. Sometimes he aks like he cares for instance he'll ask if I'm taking my prenatal vitamins. Do you think I should sign and more importantly do you think he'l love his child once he or she is born?
2006-10-04 16:42:37 · 48 answers · asked by Samara Y 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are actually thinking of signing away your babies right to be supported in order to get this loser back?
You don't deserve this baby.
2006-10-04 17:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well personally it's all up to how you want to handle things, I was in the same situation when I got pregnant with my first child, the thing is that the father wasn't my boyfriend anymore or in the picture, I went through the pregnancy and birth by myself and I should of done everything I could to get child support and stuff like that, but the thing that I wanted the most is for him to be there and be a father. I even ended up raising the child by myself for a year before he even really came into her life. I think men should take responsibility for what they do yes I believe that but what I really feel is that having a mother and a father that love you and be parents to you is worth more then any amount of money or child support, but for the deadbeat parents, yes they should pay. Another thing if he signs the papers recognizing the child as his and you get any help like Medical Assistance, food stamps anything like that the county u live in will find him and go after him for child support and there is nothing you can do about that if you need the help from them.
2006-10-04 16:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser- Do you really want him in your and your child's life forever? Do you think a loser should have part in your daily life? If you don't sign, one day he could decide that he wants full custody and take your baby away. If he is a loser now, he will most likely always be a loser- just get it over with now. If by some miracle he straightens up, he can go through the process of adopting your baby. Have some self respect and get rid of the loser now! Make sure that all of his rights are abolished and the baby gets your last name. Then one day you can teach your child how to spot a loser so this does not happen to them. Take the papers to an attorney- most family service agencies can refer you, and make sure that all rights of the father are being abolished. There are many social services that can help you out. He shouldn't even get a chance to love your baby once it's born. Good luck and good riddance!
2006-10-05 06:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by lae_ed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes him think hes so special that he can make a baby but not take responsibility for it? To make him not feel trapped, you would have to take 100% of the physical and financial responsibility. I would not sign a thing he gives you, hes trying to get out of being a dad.
I doubt he will be anything near a good father. Seriously, have you thought of adoption? Raising a child is hard, even harder without any emotional support. From the sounds of this guy he will be good for absolutely nothing once the baby is born.
2006-10-04 17:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be your ex but it takes two to make a baby. It would be a good idea when the baby is born to get blood testing done to prove to him that it is his. Then, you DEFINITELY will need his assistance in help to pay for your baby and its clothing, food & formula, insurance for dental (when the time is right), health insurance or any other essentials the baby will need. He sounds like he wants to play on the playground and when the going has any responsibility he wants to walk away. It's NOW time to grow up.
You will have the responsibility to love, nurture, put a home over the childs head, etc. He should bear some of the responsibility!!!
Good Luck to you and that precious bundle. Only time will tell if he will love his child once it is born. Sometimes a newborn will melt a man's heart and I hope for this childs sake the dad can be involved.
2006-10-04 17:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING!! If he wants you to do this it is so he can go and gallyvant while you carry his child. He wants to be relieved of all fatherly ties, if that is the case then just have HIM sign over his rights when the child is born! If there is no chance for a reconsiliation, then I would just drop him from the picture, you and the baby DO NOT NEED HIM!! If you have family and friends that are there to help and support you, that is all that you need. I can not say that he will love this child, sounds and seems to me that he is having doubts that it is even his the way he wants you to sign that paper. You really ought to just forget him and move on, no matter how painful, you really do not need the stress! Good luck!
2006-10-04 16:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a poor choice of words "my ex-boyfriend got me pregnant." I think you had a little bit to do with that yourself, so don't entirely blame him. You are both responsible here, so you both need to be financially responsible. If you can't take care of a child give it up for adoption. Don't sign any papers though, that's just asking for trouble. He might surprise you and love the child once it's born, but if he has strong feelings against being a parent or resentment towards you for having this baby then that might not ever happen. If you're for abortion, maybe talk to family planning, if you're against abortion then you either put 100% of yourself into taking care of this child for the next 20 years or give it up for adoption.
2006-10-04 16:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell really. Every person reacts differently. If he's trying to get you to sign off on not taking care of the baby financially now, who's to say he'll stick around to even see the kid, then again people change. Don't sign anything. I hope everything works out for the best. Good luck.
2006-10-04 16:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by VMG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Do not sign for any reason! This guy just does not want to live up to his responsibilities. Make sure you put HIS NAME on the birth certificate too! AND, if you have to use state aid, make damn sure that they have is name and address! This guy is a real jerk!
Will he love this baby? Who knows? But it is a sure bet that right now he wants nothing to do with it. Make sure you keep your legal rights intact! Do not let this snake slither off into the woods of non responsibility. Get his ***! What a scum bag! You will be better off with out him. But you will need his support for the next 18 years. And if this child wants to go to college, you will his money then also! Nail him to the wall!
2006-10-04 17:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sign those papers, that means he'll stay away from you forever. It's his kid too, he chose to have sex with you therefore he knew the risks, that's his own damn fault. He should support his kid. He's only pretending like he cares to get you to sign the papers, Don't do it. If he doesn't care about supporting his child for things it needs to live, do you really think he'll love it. Love means you'll pay or do whatever to make sure that the child is not deprived of things it needs to survive like food, medicine, diapers. It's not cheap to have a kid and unless you have an excellent job that pays extremely well, don't sign it.
2006-10-04 16:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Aliayh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think he may be looking for a way out. I also think that a child deserves to have 2 parents, both financially responsible. I had a similar situation to were I let the guy off the hook, but now my daughter needs surgery and I need his family medial history and can't get it. You must also think of everything you are going to need for your child, if you sign he doesn't have to help with anything, even college. Hope you get the answer you are looking for though.
2006-10-04 16:50:26 · answer #11 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋