My husband and I are trying for our first baby. We have been trying for 3 months now. Is this normal?
2006-10-04 16:17:48 · 15 answers · asked by Carlen 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My husband and I have been trying to have a baby now since my cycle in February 2006- its now October. I am very anxious to become pregnant and I know you should try for a year before becoming concerned. I used the over the counter ovulation kits, and even bought the Clear Blue Easy Fertility monitor to help me pin point when I ovulate.
All of my life I have had weird periods- sometimes go 3 months without a period- lately running about 45- 52 day cycles, and every now and then there would be a 27 day cycle. I started charting my periods last year so I could guess when my period would come- I was getting tired of "Aunt Flow" just showing up out of the blue and having embarrassing accidents. According to these OTC ovulation kits I only ovulated one time since February.
On September 22 of this year I went to my OB/GYN for the whole works, and I brought my nifty period chart with, told him the whole story and he said just by looking at my chart that he could tell I wasn't ovulating. He ran some tests and did a vaginal ultrasound and Vaio Lah! I have PCOS Polycystic ovaries and don't ovulate!!
I know its sort of a lie, :(---I told my doc that we had been trying for a year so that he would look further into it. I had said concerns to a different doc ( my family practioner) previously and he just told me to be patient and never looked into it. (Actually the butt told me to pull a night on the town and end up in the backseat of an old Chevy and chuckled- I wasnt amused) But I am really glad I had it checked out or I would still be waiting until Februaury.
PS- I start my first round of Clomid this month!!
So my advice to you- trust your gut feeling- if you really think there is something wrong- get it checked out and bring some proof to back you up if you keep trying without luck! Hope you get PG soon! I know it can be very anxious!
2006-10-04 17:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by jacque7305 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only three months, that's nothing. I have a 14 year old and a 13 year old. I tried to have a third about 4 years after the first two, and nothing. So i didn't think of it, thought that was it. Then a year ago i got my wish. A beautiful baby girl. So i waited 12 years, you have lots and lots of time, enjoy the practise!!!!!
2006-10-04 16:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by gimaqt8 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes completely normal. It doesn't take someone a second to conceive. It may be awhile but make sure that you are both healthy for a child and that everything is working fine. Other than that waiting and patience is going to be the game now. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 16:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very normal,,, Dr's tell you not to become concerned untill over one year with no luck. It took us 6 months. Dont worry about it - I know it's hard not to when you want a little one so bad. But I think when you finally just resolve that it will happen in good time - - it does. Stress can change your hormones for the worse..
2006-10-04 16:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Turtle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carlen, it is normal, but remember to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.
2006-10-05 14:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by donp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it is okay. I have been trying for about 6 months now, and still holding out hope.
Try going to www.babiesonline.com
Click on site map..or something close to that in the very bottom of the little box that says go there under it, you have to scroll down within that box to get to it. Once you get to the site map click on trying to concieve. It will give you all kinds of tips and information that is helpful for trying to concieve.
Good Luck!
2006-10-04 16:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is completely normal. It takes a healthy couple up to 1 year. After that you and your husband should go to the doctor for a fertility work-up which for you includes bloodwork, pelvic exam, and HSG. Your husband's work-up may include bloodwork and sperm analysis. My husband and I have been trying for over 4 years and our problem is PCOS.
2006-10-05 01:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by brm1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Most couples (80%) get pregnant within one year. There are others who try much longer. I have been trying for over three years. Keep your chin up, try not to stress about just yet and have fun. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-05 04:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by KC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its very normal, especially when you are anticipating it, which causes more stress, and stress hormones seem to interfere with the whole process.
I know more than one couple who tried for a long time, finally adopted, and THEN got pregnant. Not that it will take that with you...but once they adopted, they were happy, the stress was off, and BOOM. Just relax, enjoy the time you guys have together, and it will happen.
All the best!!
2006-10-04 16:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it sometimes takes a year or longer. Just depends on your bodies. And women don't always ovulate every month. And you have to ovulate to get pregnant.
Good luck
2006-10-04 16:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by babylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋