I don't know what I do, but I feel like any man I get with makes me feel like I screw their lives up on way or another? How or what can I don't to make the man in my life happy. Let him have everything his way all the time or what? Help! Before I Do Something I Will Regret!
2006-10-04 16:17:40 · 10 answers · asked by Boo G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and no matter what you say, ask, or talk about it is always wrong to him but when he asks it is ok? seems like anything you do never pleases him. I just can't take anymore in life!
2006-10-04 16:22:57 · update #1
Stop Listening to those men , they use it they use those tactics to controll you.
Love yourself first and foremost.
Step outside your body and evaluate your situation. If you were your big sister what would you do ?
You need more confidence and love in yourself.
IMHO , Men who blame everything on their partners don't deserve them.
I wasted so much of MY life loving people who didn't love me.
Don't do the same thing.
Learn that sometimes its more than acceptable to tell people to f**** off.
2006-10-04 23:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO MAKE HIM HAPPY....he should be able to be happy all by him lonesome lil self! **"Let him have everything his way all the time or what?"**
This sounds to me like your confidence is just fine! Im guessing you are a very smart, pretty and INDEPENDENT woman..am I right? You speak your mind and have your own opinions and probably dont speak out unless you know what your talking about..***"and no matter what you say, ask, or talk about it is always wrong to him but when he asks it is ok?"*** My boyfriend was doing this crap a little while ago too...looked for faults in everything i did, made me feel like ****. Then I wrote him a letter, asked him what i did that warrented being treated so badly... listed all the things that took a 360-like- how he use to value my opinion and how I was lucky to even get a hug, let alone a kiss these days. Blah blah blah...anyway, as it turned out, he at some point started to feel smothered. Instead of saying something to me he tried to stuff it. Told him, damn im not a mind reader, all the things i do you thought were wonderful and did them too. If it changed to you....you should have told me, im not a mind reader.
my point is this...you keep true to yourself and if your guy expects you to change because of HIS insecurities, move on.
2006-10-04 23:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal-Ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say therapy to help your self image. But you need to know that you will NEVER find a perfect relationship and you will NEVER be able to be the perfect woman. So don't try! Learn to talk openly with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about things. I'm not really sure how you are screwing up their lives, but I am sure it's partly in your head. If you are not currently seeing someone you need to work on your self first. If you go in to a relationship feeling that you are not good enough or that you need to change you will never be able to make any one happy... How can you please someone else if you can't please yourself?? I recommend doing some serious soul searching before you start looking for another partner.
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2006-10-04 23:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest with you, you need to learn to love yourself before you can truly love someone Else. Secondly you need to learn to make yourself happy before you can truly make anyone Else happy.
2006-10-04 23:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by rustin_morley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your problem is your self confidence. Seek therapy in order to figure out how to make you happy, instead of trying to bend yourself to please a man.
2006-10-04 23:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The details are too general here for an answer.
2006-10-04 23:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont seem to be happy person maybe thats the problem...
2006-10-04 23:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRRRRRRRRLLLLLLLLL how in the hell r u going to make somebody else happy when u r not confident about yourself!!!!!If you can not love self then no one sure in the hell will!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-04 23:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by LADONNA W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be such a screw up
2006-10-04 23:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋