I was diagnosed with MND (ALS) when my child was 7 years old. I was given only 2 - 3 years of life. Most of them in a wheelchair & paralysed. When I was on the verge of being admitted to a Hospice & placed an order for the delivery of an electrical wheelchair my husband started an affair. He was very generous to his mistress: paying her rent, buying her designer clothes, trip to North & South America, ect. etc. By the grace of God I receiveid a miracles healing. My husband refused to support me financially. After discovering hes infidelity I filed for divorce. He is well connected, powerful & rich man. Currently he is spreading romours about my past & not considering the impact of such serious accusation for the future of our child. He is hiding millions & has no intention giving me a cent as settlement. Sadly most of our "friends" have taken his side.
I'm stying positive & believe that God has spared my life for a reason. I'm not cooping well. My child is not cooping well.
2006-10-04 16:02:22 · 16 answers · asked by Angel Girl 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How are your divorce proceedings going?
Very rich people are generally greedy and unloving - they always worry about losing money and can't imagine how they could manage with just a half.
I would keep praying for a solution, reduce your overheads to an absolute minimum, in a small house, a small car, and no extravagence at all. I live on less than $500 per month, as a family of three and we are extremely happy here in China. So you don't need much.
2006-10-04 16:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a statement not a question , your husband probably had the affair in the first place cause your marriage was on the rocks and with your sickness he was under extreme stress . you needed to have given him a fair go as he prob lay hadn't had sex for a very long time(he could have just walked out ) . and all healthy people need sex esp males . You needed to understand this , I think you become bitter about being sick and losing your husband and are looking for blame , It wasn't your husband fault or yours it was just bad circumstances all round .. if you hadn't run and filed for divorce he most probably ended the affair and both your lives would have returned to some type of normal . Normally i think hes actions would have been wrong but the circumstances were very difficult , Have a nice life bye
2006-10-04 17:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. Hearing a story like this just upsets me so very much. Especially when a child is involved. I really don't see how your husband can get away with not giving you something at settlement. And what about child support? Isn't he going to give anything to help support his child?? I just don't understand how the law could be on his side here. Don't worry too much about the friends. If they are taking his side, then they weren't friends to begin with. I feel so bad for you and your son. I wish I had some magic words for you, but I don't. Just know your in my thoughts and my prayers.
2006-10-04 17:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for everything you're going through. A similar situation happened within my family. Like you said, god must have spared your life for a reason. All I can tell you is you will get through this, and try to make it work for the best, afterall your child will eventually know the truth and later on understand teh pain you are both going through. Isn't it hard to believe that the man that you loved is doing this to you? I hope that he is at least continuing to support your children! Once again, I am sorry and hope that all you are going through eventually pays you back! I am a firm believer in karma, and he sure has got it comin' to him!
2006-10-04 16:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by cheer8ko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and hope is not in the money. Money makes life easier, but not happier. You have your health and the unconditional love a child has for his mother. Chances are your husband has always been the way he is. It took trauma to happen for his true colors to shine. When the going got tough, he turned out to be a coward. It is good that now you know. Live your full life, make your own money, love your child, then..you are happy and ready for love again.
2006-10-04 16:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by ecutepup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right about god has spared your life for a reason. and i commend you on your strength. as far as your ex playing dirty pool about your past. Inform him that continuing to do this will hurt your son and if he doesn't care for you thats fine you realize he's gone but have some respect for his son.
and if that doesn't work talk to your lawyer where you can get a lawyer to make up papers that he can't say anything about your past. Thats not right. also can ruin your reputation and what ever businness venture you may be in or later.
2006-10-04 19:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry for your pain & suffering.Second praise God for bringing you out of such a bad relationship & terrible illness. Now saying that you know he didn't let you walk alone then & he will deliver you & your daughter a sign of peace just as he has twice before.
2006-10-04 16:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there and pray every day, it will get better. i would move to another town and try my best to get full custody of my child and never look back. move away and start all over in a small town or something where you can get a goos job and support your child on your own.
2006-10-04 16:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by rlsangel18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. You can't control what he says to other people. He will only make himself look like a fool.
2006-10-04 16:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry with the grace of god you will be fine and justice will prevail
2006-10-04 16:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋