my boyfriend is insecure about his body and i never knew why but his friend told me it was because he has a few stretch marks on the sides of his buttocks (lol, the word is funny), in the area where your hip bone is i guess. but do gay men care about that? does he think i'll be disgusted or something?
if you're a gay man, do you care if your partner has a few stretch marks on his hip/buttocks area? i looked when he was sleeping (bad i know) but he has like 4 lines on each side.. i just want to understand him.
2006-10-04 15:50:35 · 10 answers · asked by ihatesfhills 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think most people that have stretch marks somewhere on their body are insecure about them or at least hate them. I know I do. I used to be quite skinny and I've gained about 40 pounds in the past few years. I've got stretch marks on the insides of my biceps, on the insides of my thighs, on my "love handles". I know i'm very insecure about it because I've not always had them and they are quite ugly, to say the least. A lot of people have stretch marks though. It's very common. Skin only likes to stretch so far, so quickly, I guess.
Not that I am fond of stretch marks, but I am not freaked out or completely disgusted by them. My boyfriend is a little heavier than he was when he was younger and he too has some stretch marks. The first time I saw them on his body it was more like "Oh, you have stretch marks too, huh?" We talked for a good 5-10 minutes about all of our stretch marks and how much we hate them. It was nothing to be ashamed of. It was kind of funny actually.
If you see your boyfriend is particularly embarassed by his stretch marks and they really don't bother you, just let him know this. Tell him it's ok, it's normal, and it doesn't bother you or gross you out. Comfort his insecurity. That will make him feel much better.
2006-10-04 16:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by palebeachbum 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm distinctly confident each and each guy has their own selection of ways tight or stretched and or loose the floor of a persons' rear is. some wish it. some would no longer care. Others would hassle-free outright hate it. reminiscent of how some human beings have fetish' for the most eldritch thigns. They make like it yet others hate it. All on opinion. in spite of the indisputable fact that it really is nice that you;'re overtly gay! a minimum of on Yahoo solutions anyhow. Lol.
2016-11-26 03:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people, men and women, have stretch marks. It's no big deal. Just DON'T make any comments about them. Accentuate the positive and tell him what you like about his body. If he's a good guy who treats you well then who gives a rat's a*s about a few stretch marks. Just be glad you're not stuck with a lying, cheating, using, abusive a*shole.
2006-10-04 19:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Evan and Palebeachbum have the right advice. Anyhow, tell him that you love him because he is who he is and that means you will accept him and love him in his humanly imperfect state. Perfect is whatever you define it to be, not what society tells us in the photoshop pictures in the magazines and the hyper-masculine gym slaves and the anorexic toothpick women we see so often now-a-days. Actually, stretch marks are often found on people with "perfect" bodies- lots of body builders have them, and if you are anorexic or lose gain weight quickly, you will get them too. I am a normal weight but was anorexic once, and when I got stretch marks from losing weight really quickly, go figure, which totally didn't help my self esteem, but anyway... Self confidence and self acceptance are very important to survive in this critical environment, and hopefully you can help him feel good about himself. Anyhow, stretch marks are common, and they are just your body's collagen synthesis and skin regeneration being out of sync. Luck.
2006-10-04 17:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think ALL people regardless of sexual orientation feel bad about their bodies if they are not "perfect." By perfect I'm not talking the crap that we're sold on television or in magazines but where we see ourselves. Anyone who was at some point a few pounds overweight and then lost it has the chance of stretch marks... he shouldn't have anything to worry about because I doubt that is a deal breaker with you.
2006-10-04 15:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by HomSupLo75 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i have never noticed any stretch marks on any guy Ive had a relationship, but i have some in the same area of my hip and they make me very self-concsious
2006-10-04 19:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Narry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand how your boyfriend feel about his stretch marks, makes you feel unattractive when you don't seem to have the prefect body. my only advice is to show him that his stretch marks doesn't bother you. Make love to his stretch marks and him.
2006-10-04 16:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just let him know that his stretch marks won't change how you feel about him.
2006-10-04 15:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by beetee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my boyfriend has stretch marks (i'm a girl) he used to be ok with them until i teased him about them.. i was just joking, but now he hates them, but there's nothing that can be done about stretch marks.. they'll never go away :(
2006-10-04 15:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by KK 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I thought stretch marks on the butt were a product of gay sex.
2006-10-04 15:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by I luv THICK gurlz 3 · 0⤊ 10⤋