My so called friend wants to use my washer and dryer, call her friends over, use my phone, wear my clothes, use my make up, (estee lauder), (clinique), (clairins), she can't even pronounce Chanel, things that I sacrifice for, take a bath at my house, and I am sick to death of it, I'm recently single and don't have a lot of people I know but although she is a loud mouth and I don't care what she says to who, I need to know how to get rid of her or at least keep her under some kind of control since I am paying the bills and she acts like because we're friends i should do these things for her. I can't afford her and don't think I should, but don't really know how to tell her. I know i'm a wus but really need advice.
2006-10-04 15:45:29 · 11 answers · asked by janicelinton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Recently single is not a foot in the grave, she is not a friend if she tress passes in such manners really, grow a set and tell her to buy her own make up and washer and dryer. Most of all grow a set, if you are a push over like this, you will only attract abusive people.
2006-10-04 15:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by llltazslleyeslloflltrullblulll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. And sharing make up is dangerous by the way. Tell her if she want to use the stuff she has pay for the stuff and that includes the clothes. Make it outrages prices. So if she dose do it after you tell her you don't want to you made some money out of the deal. Think of it this way it has to be done or you might have to live with her for a while. Think of that it might motive you. Good luck.
2006-10-04 22:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that this is happening. There are givers and takers in this world. You have already identified both of Your parts. Just start asking for Her to start helping to pay for Her part of things, and start borrowing from Her, to the point it is out of control. If She acts offended, She will move on, Takers always do, they take until there is nothing left to take, and then they move on.
Look at everything that She is doing to You and do the same.
It is either that, or Stand Up for Yourself..After All..You do deserve it......................Like You said, You worked hard for Your things.
Best Wishes
2006-10-04 22:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rusty Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you,but the only way she is going to stop is by you telling her how you feel when she does these things.If she can't understand that the things she does upsets you and frustrates you,then in my book she's not a true friend.I hope every thing works out alright.
2006-10-04 22:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to tell her the truth and tell her that if she needs to do any of these things that she needs to do them on her own dime.
2006-10-04 22:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by rustin_morley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put up a sign as done in the 60's for people looking for a free ride.
'Grass, as*s or cash, nobody rides for free'. ;-)
Just tell her or don't let her in the door.
Since she is dense, you gotta be very clear.
Show her what you wrote above!!!!
2006-10-04 22:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is more than welcome to use any of your utilities as long as she pays the bill when you get it in the mail or buys your makeup when you run out,she'll get the hint.
2006-10-04 22:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice about it, but you Have to tell her exactly whats on your mind if she gets mad and doesn't want to be your friend anymore then she wasn't you friend to begin with she was just using you, i know a lot of girls like that. one was my so called best friend
2006-10-04 22:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by ya girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the door..after a few days she'll go away. People can't use and abuse you unless you let them!
2006-10-04 22:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
put a jar near everything she uses and put on it FIVE DOLLAR DONATION PER USE and hide your makeup geez this girl is cheap using your stuff and you need to put a stop to her using YOU !!
2006-10-04 22:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋