i have a friend that i that was my gf way back, like five years. anyway, she is now single and started hanging out with me. she hints that she's not interested in me and thats ok, but still really like her. I recently decided that i dont want to see her anymore due towards my feelings for her, shes been really buisy with school and work so its hard to get time to tell her. so what i did was e-maild her how i felt, i told her that it hurts too much and so on.....blaw, blaw,blaw. am i stupid fo doing it that way?
2006-10-04 15:44:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well i didnt say that i didnt want to see her anymore, i am savin that till i see her.
2006-10-04 15:50:58 · update #1
Actually, if you took the time to express your feelings on the relationship as it is now, I think that was a positive move on your part.
If you don't believe, in your heart of hearts, that this is a good relationship for you, then you did the right thing. Don't set yourself up for abuse. If she's "hinting" that she's not interested in you, then find your own source of mutual interest. You don't need to be a puppet dancing to old strings.
If she's too busy for you, then you need to move on with projects and interests that satisfy you. Email seems to have been the only communication channel available to you, given the state of affairs you described. Good on you, for having the honor to state your postition. Nothing 'stupid' about having values and self-respect.
Now.
Get out there, and find one who appreciates you for you, and has the same interests and pursuits as you. You deserve to have the cake of a friend, and the frosting of a lover. You'll be so much more happy, by moving beyond.
"NEXT!"
2006-10-04 16:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong of you to email her. it makes u look really bad. it makes you less of a friend. I would be offended if i were her considering your past relations with eachother you would think that it you would be comfortable enough to talk to her (after how did you two break up? were you the one to do it?)
Now you have to explain this email to her and its not going to be pretty.
I understand you are hurt and dont want to hurt her feelings as well but you still have to tell her to her face.
2006-10-04 23:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Curiosity killed the cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you tried to talk to her and could not then you did your best.
Telling someone what you feel is better than not telling
So now go find a girl you can relate to on a higher level
Good Luck
2006-10-04 22:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if cutting off your friendship with her will help you move on and get over her, than no you are not stupid. if she doesnt share the same feelings for you, it probably wont hurt her if you break up the friendship as much. maybe after a while, when things cool off, you guys can become friends again, if its not too awkward
2006-10-04 22:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not stupid for doing it that way... it's just easier sometimes, for some of us to express exactly how we feel by writing it, than it is to say it in person.
2006-10-04 22:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just an e-mail. Concentrate on yourself and your life. If she doesn't value you, then you need to move on. Lots of people love to "collect" people around them, but are not serious about it. Your duty is to you, and you need all your emotional energy.
2006-10-04 22:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your questions is.
1. YES
2. YES
3. YES
Life teaches you lessons very quickly, then there are gold diggers.
2006-10-04 22:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by froggy010101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,but send her another e-mail explaining why you felt you had to e-mail her to break it off instead of telling her to her face.Then move on.
2006-10-04 22:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that you told her how you felt but it would have been a lot better if you told her to her face. It would have shown her that you have a lot of courage.
2006-10-04 22:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ... there are some things in life that u always need to say face to face... any kind of separation is one of those things..
2006-10-04 22:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋