2006-10-04 15:34:46 · 16 answers · asked by paula t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like you need to communicate better, on both sides, but young guys don't understand or try to..so it may be better to let it go , and move on
2006-10-04 15:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I am no authority on this. I have been in a relationship like you describe though. It was pure hell for both of us even though we "loved" each other when we were not fighting. The trouble was we faught most of the time. If you have tried counceling and still fight I would seriously consider ending your mutual suffering and try living apart (or not dating) for a while.
One symptom of a relationship that may be helped by counceling is if you seem to have the same fights over and over again with no resolution of the problem. A third party may help you deal with the problems instead of just fighting about them.
2006-10-04 16:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by firemanbill33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey, Iam sorry you are going through this,. What I would do is the next time a fight starts don't fight back. Let him speak, you can learn more by listening than fighting. Usually when a person is angry, they let it all come out. Listen to what he says and then evaluate it. Did he said he did not love me? Did he say that he is tire of you? Did he say I can't take this any longer? or did he ask what can we do to resolve this fighting all the time.
For now as long as he is not hitting or touching you, wait and see what you can get out of it. Being quiet doesn't mean that you are being submissive it just mean that you want to hear what he is saying. Shouting matches are not good because while you are screaming or talking he cannot hear you or you cannot hear him. Just listen and learn what his thoughts are then make your decision. I hope this will help you a bit.
2006-10-04 15:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well fighting can't be a good thing but sometimes thats the only way some guys know how to show they care, maybe you should sit him down and talk to him. And if he continues to fight tell him to join a gym or go to a anger management class.
2006-10-04 15:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Antbanks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by fight?? He doesn't hit you I hope....if he does get out now...but if it is just word that doesn't make it right either but just a little easier to deal with. If you have been together for a long time (years) then make you just need a break from each other, so that you appreciate each other more. Good luck
2006-10-04 15:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to spend a lot of time with you, I mean really wants to spend a lot of time with you instead of his friends, then he really likes you. If you separate and he gets really depressed, then he must care for you and loves you. You're going to disagree, that doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Instead, that just confirms that each of you have your own views and opinions on different things because you're individuals. So, you're not always going to agree. Now if you're really fighting, like getting violent, you need to get out before you end up getting seriously hurt, both emotionally and physically.
2006-10-04 15:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Cheeky Realtor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen honey from a person who is very demanding i would know when someone isnt in love. if he is fighting it means he actually cares. if he didnt he wouldnt argue with you hed be like whatever you win. you need to sit down and have a one on one. it depends also what you are fighting about. if its little petty things then dont worry. when you fight about sex, money or parents and family then there is some issues to work on. plan a tiime you can both sit down and discuss your issues work out why you fight. who starts the fights? why are they started? can they be resolved. instead of yelling and carrying on like pork chops listen to what he has to say before jumping down his throat. if you need more help email me but you need to be more specific before i can give you a big summary.
2006-10-04 15:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by cha cha pop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you all fighting about? I mean I'm sure the love is still there besides if your feelings are changing for him then you need to put them on the table. life is too short to be unhappy. Good luck!!
2006-10-04 15:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by nattabomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is stressed over some stuff. Just be polite and he will do the same thing. He might be going though some changes in his life. He still loves you! I hope this helps!!!
2006-10-04 15:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by lawteyhottie_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't blame the fighting on him, it becomes so important to be right sometimes that you lose sight of why you are together, learn to just walk away, if you don't your problems will continue no matter whom you are with. you may win the battle but lose the war. it's tough to do, but struggle with it and you will be the better person for it.
2006-10-04 15:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU BEEN DATING A LONG TIME? TO ME IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER THERE WOULDN'T BE ALL OF THIS FIGHTING. YOU DON'T DO THAT WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE. SEEMS LIKE THERE MIGHT BE SOME ISSUES THERE. MAYBE YOU NEED TO REEVALUTE TO SEE IF YOU REALLY NEED TO BE DATING THIS GUY.
2006-10-04 15:38:06 · answer #11 · answered by mac15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋