My friend just got an abortion and I feel horrible. When she told me she was pregnant and was getting the abortion I understood and was completely supportive. Now I feel that maybe I should have talked her out of it but at the same time I know I had no right to do so. Is it possible to feel guilty for her? And what would the best thing for me to do for her and myself?
2006-10-04 15:30:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
honey, feeling guilty will get you nowhere...if you need get someone to talk to to sort out your feelings, her too if she needs...to have an abortion is a very important decision, not to be taken lightly!! now that it is done, i would try to find a good therapist or support group to help you work through the whole process. i wish you and your friend the very best!!
2006-10-04 15:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by jennrabbitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I compleatly do not believe in abortion she could have gave the baby up for adoption to someone who desperatly wants a child and cant have any . I know how you feel though my friend just had a abortion I didnt even know she was thinking about it for she had just moved far away back home to her parents and family . I felt guilty for her and I thik she regrets it . Good luck on how you feel it will get better with time .
2006-10-04 22:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by brandi.smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault, and you shouldn't blame yourself, ultimately it was her decision to make and there was nothing you could have done to talk her out of it. All you can do now is just continue to support her, I can understand how you might feel bad when you think of how a little baby won't be coming into the world now, but really shouldn't blame yourself, becuase it wasn't your problem, or your decision to make or your life and at the end of the day she's the one who will have to live with her decision so stop blaming yourself.
2006-10-04 22:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the quilt feeling that you have is a good thing it showa that you have feels and that you are careing person i feel sorry for you but you friend i have no feelings for it is horrible what she did and for that little baby i am sad and have teared feld eyes it never had a chance there was nothing you or no one else could have done she would have don it any way maybe you sould talk to her and tell her how you feel about it because it is a great loss i would have taken that baby in and raised it in a heart beat good luck
2006-10-04 22:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable for you to feel bad, but in the end, it was your friend's decision to make. Now the best thing you can do is be there if she needs you and learn from the situation.
2006-10-04 22:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the hardest decision EVER to make...you would have felt guilty EITHER way...cause she obviously wasn't READY to be a parent...so ..just be there to talk when she needs to, cry when she wants to, and just be a friend...
2006-10-04 22:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you could feel that way, but you have to remember at the time you were being supportive to your friend. What if you were the only one at that time that she told that she didn't feel was judging her. You can't control what makes you feel convicted so pray, pray, pray.
2006-10-04 23:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Samara Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i understand this guilt feeling by extension. try prayers and asking for forgiveness. never underestimate the power of prayers.
2006-10-04 22:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should have talked her out of it but she was going to do it anyway if she really wanted to.
2006-10-04 22:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋