My husband seems to flirt with woman in chatline. He told me its normal to address them as "dear" and saying "I love you" in chatline. He is not only say it to a woman but few of them. Why to him, saying "I love you" is nothing? And why woman in chatline accept married man love?? Why nowadays love is so cheap??
2006-10-04 15:18:01 · 20 answers · asked by rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me get this straight, your husband is flirting with women on line and telling them he loves them?
DUH! This is totally inappropriate. Married men have no business chatting with women on line and definitely shouldn't be telling them he loves them.
Sure there are different kinds and levels of love. The love between husband and wife. Parents and children. I tell my long time friends I love them, but not strangers I have never met.
Is he comfortable with you telling other men you love them?
How much time is he spending on line? Is he neglecting his duties around the house? Is he spending as much time with you as he spends with his on line girlfriends?
This whole thing is just WRONG!
I can only imagine how hurt you must feel. You may want to reassess your marriage and seek some counseling.
My heart goes out to you, but you are not a helpless victim, you need to take a stand one way or another.
2006-10-04 15:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by easinclair 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To me it's normal,But my husband ask me the samething that you are asking now. I am happily married have been for 9 yrs. I talk to other men, but there is a line to draw about what you chat about. If a person that I am chatting with gets out of hand I just block him. I guess it's the person because this thing or no man could take me from my home.But yet he should not!!!!!!!!! tell them that he loves them or call them dear, that's just wrong If he had been talking to me I would have blocked him. Some people really belive that line then he's in trouble. Well take care talk to him, let him know how you feel. Good luck.
2006-10-04 15:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by MISSIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason your husband should be adressing another woman he knows in an endearing way unless they are family or extremely close friends. And saying I love you is completely out of the question. I would say something to your husband about how this makes you feel, and ask him to stop. If he doesn't then you really need to think about your situation and if you can continue to live this way. I would not accept this under any circumstances for any reason. Stop it now before it ruins your trust and faith in him
2006-10-04 16:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a no no. No way would my man be chatting with any woman and telling anyone he loves them, would cause a major war in this house. My question to you is why do you allow him to do this and why do you take his excuses as though they are ok? You have to set the standard and not allow such bs from your man. I'd get rid of my service if my man started that stuff. That's not right no way no how!!! What is he doing in person with other women when you aren't around? What's ok then? That makes you think I hope?
2006-10-04 15:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be youger than I am. It has a lot to do with his true feelings towards you, what he actually wants in the relationship, and if he is actually getting what he wants. I, myself, do not believe in saying "I love you" to each and every person I speak to, unless it is a family member or a long time friend that you know of and have met before.
I have been with a g/f for 9 years now, but I don't have the same feeling for her as I used to.
Even so, I, still, don't go around saying "I love you" to each and every person that I chat with, even though I have met another woman who wishes to become a good friend and even more.
I would talk to him about this and keep an eye on his outcome and reactions.
Good Luck!
2006-10-04 15:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by samuel_clarence_huxtable 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Saying dear and hun and pet names like that is okay. but to say i love you is not right. should only say it if he means it.
I was at a resstaurant the other night and a man i haven't seen since high school days thanked me for coming gave me a kiss on the cheek then a hug and said i love you.. I too was taken aback. how could this be used so easily that i had to ask other peoples opinion on this .
2006-10-04 19:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband tell "all" women he talks to in person that he loves them? If not then he don't need to do it on line neither. Secondly I feel you should only say " I love you" if you truly mean it not just to say it which he seems to do a lot.
Some people say things like "dear" "babygurl" "I love you" and such to lots of people. my uncles say "Babygurl" when talking to any females even the kids in our family. I have an aunt who addresses everyone she talks to as "dear" or "sweetheart".
2006-10-04 15:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't normal, or I won't say it isn't normal, but I will say it isn't right. It sounds to me like your hubby has low self esteem and he is trying to fill a gap in his life. Maybe he doesn't feel like you love him enough or maybe he don't feel you don't say it enough and he is looking for a lot of other women to say it to him to make him feel better about himself. Is he ugly?...overweight?...maybe he can be like that with these women because they don't have to see him. Not really sure but I tell you this, I would give him fair warning to knock that crap off or I would take a bat and bust the computer. Good luck.
2006-10-04 15:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't allow my fiance to address anyone other then me and family with "I love you." It's not appropriate. He can say to a friend, "I love you like a friend, I care about you" etc or like an "i LOVE you" like their "cool or great" but even then I am cautious. Don't put up with that crap. It's unecessary. If he loves you and cares about you, he won't do something if it upsets you.
2006-10-04 15:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not normal and you know it! Lady, you have a lying, cheating, no good SOB for a husband. (sorry, but you needed to be told)
2006-10-04 15:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋