its about a man i really do like but he has a problem with trust so what should i do?

Question

i have shown him that im not like the other females he have dated but he still think i be lying too

Answer 1

I hope you two find a way to settle this problem.

I am sometimes emotionally insecure because my last relationship involved a lot of lying and cheating.

Sometimes I feel like it's not fair to my current girlfriend, but she is always totally open and honest to me about everything, and if I ever get feelings of suspicion, she is always ready to make me feel better and show me that there is nothing to be afraid of (she's never gotten upset at me because of this, bless her heart).

After being in my current relationship for several months, I have noticed that my worries are gradually disappearing into nothing thanks to her kindness and honesty.

I definitely think there is hope for you two if you are willing to help him with his insecurities (I know some women hate this, but sometimes love means taking care of someone who needs you); if he is a good guy (moral, honest, truly loving), then he does deserve to have a happy relationship with you. On the other hand, if he is not a great guy, you may not want to invest so much and just let him go. It's your call.

Definitely talk to him about this and make sure that you both are on the same page regarding this problem. You at least need to make sure that he understands how you feel and is willing to cooperate. If he loves you, he'll try his best.

Answer 2

You have done all you can to assure him of your steadfastness, if he still doubts you then I think you shouldn't put yourself into what could turn out to be a vicious cycle.

If he really likes you back, he would get over himself and at least try to develop trust, the fact that he doesn't, you might want to re-think your situation. If he can't trust you, what is to prove that YOU can trust him? Trust is a two way tunnel.

My own bf has the same incident with his ex as your man, in fact he CAUGHT the cheating couple on his bed when he had come home unexpectedly one day. Needless to say he flew into a flurry, but according to him ( and his ex... we got introduced and we chatted ) he actually gave her a chance... ( he must have really been into her ) But incidentally, she cheated on him AGAIN! And this time, he broke it off with her.

After her, now he is with me and we have been together for a few years now, and the best part is both of us believe in one partner one person. His concept is if you want to have a buffet, he must be given the same rights as well, but his ex couldnt accept the same rights thing... isnt it weird when we do something but dont allow the same freedom to our partner?

Girl... a relationship needs two hands to clap, if he is not willing to clap with you, all you're gonna do is end up chasing the other hand. Hope all works out well for you.... and for all the heart felt effort you have put in to assure him, I hope this guy is Good Enough for YOU and is deserving to be with someone like you, not the other way round...

Answer 3

"Drop him quick?" Yeah, THAT'S mature...

It's not a case of you showing him he can trust, you, he needs to see that he can trust you.

I was in the same boat as him about a year ago. One bad relationship (a looong time ago) really messed me up, and only recently, with the help of a young lady (who has since broken my heart, but that's neither here nor there) have I been able to put my trust into people again.

I know it's not the answer you want, but all you can do is be there for him, and eventually he'll come around.

Answer 4

Look, if he can't put his past relationships behind him and realized that you're a completely different woman, there's not a whole lot that you can do.
You should explain to him that a relationship simply cannot survive without trust.
Either he stops treating you like his past girlfriends and understands that he's going to kill any relationship when he refuses to trust his partner, or I'd move on.

Answer 5

Get out of the relationship while you are still able.
Look for someone who is not having you call him when
you get out of work, school, etc. That isn't love, that's checking
up on you because he can't trust you. He sees everything through
the eyes of his EX, the one he can't trust. Trust me. My daughter
goes through it all the time.
DON'T BE SO DESPERATE. WHAT'S TO LIKE ABOUT SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T (like) TRUST YOU.

Answer 6

all females are the same, if it goes their way they are happy, if not they are miserable to be around and he knows that.

Answer 7

His problem is becoming

Your problem


drop him quick