we have been speaking about divorce for a few months. She has expressed she has feelings for another man out of state and has seen him 2x and is going again later this month. She has slept with him numerous times and will continue to...Meanwhile I take time off work to keep her two kids (my stepchildern) and out biological daughter when she leaves. Would a court find this behavior along with other sexual acts done over the internet to be an unfit mother?
2006-10-04 15:08:57 · 12 answers · asked by noname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok so i got the other answers to this question...so i am left with her two kids whom i love dearly but i don't belive this is fair. she leaves me to care for them when she goes out of state and I have proof they have slept togather...she's admitted feelings for him...just a few more questions to ask to see if it makes her unfit...she smokes in the house, uses profanity towards the kids when they do something wrong "i'll beat your ***", has had CPS called on her for her language and treatment of the kids and condition of the house...i cleaned the house to make sure we didn't get in trouble...i clean the house daily, laundry, feed and bathe the kids...not trying to be egotistical but I do, do it all...she has no job, no source of income except child support she recieves from an ex husband...chats online all the time, chats on the phone all the time...and text messages the guy she has feelings for right in front of me and speaks to him on the phone.
2006-10-04 15:52:09 · update #1
i have pics of the house and different discrepancies that are not tollerable of raising kids, also Home Key logger works really well and it is a free download if you want to know what others do on the computer when your not around...i have so many things i just want to know beyond a shadow of a doubt she is unfit as a mother as seen by a court.
2006-10-04 15:53:55 · update #2
As long as she is making sure that the children are taken care of while she is away, she is a fit mother. It's very hard to prove a mother unfit as long as the children are healthy and taken care of.
2006-10-04 15:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would think this would make her an unfit mother, but as long as she doesn't display the behavior in front of the children, there problem it's much that the judge will do. The judge may goes as far as giving her a good chewing out for not spending much time with her kids, and the judge needs to!! There is no excuse for her acting that way when she has children and leaving them behind to be with another man like she is doing. She is not setting a good example for the children to follow. Sounds like she needs to grow up her self. You didn't say how old the children were but you can be sure that IF they are very old at all, they do know what she is doing. She is not being a good role model at all.
2006-10-04 15:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on whether or not your state is a no fault state. You'll have to speak to an attorney to discuss this. If it is a no fault state, then what she does has no bearing on anything and you are providing free child care for her activities. If it is a fault bearing state, then gather as much proof as you can, but be discreet and still speak with an attorney. If it is a no fault state, then stand up and tell her that you will no longer watch the children for the times when you know she will be going to see him. Of course, technically all of this information is only really grounds for a divorce and not for an unit mother. It would take proving that she has neglected to provide for them in order to see him- which she has not done because she has left them with you. You are a pawn that needs to stand up to her. My suggestion is to take the kids out when you know she has other things to do than be with him. Go see an attorney and good luck!
2006-10-04 15:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by ladydavonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My husband was running around with a secretary he worked with and left me with an 11 month old and a 3 yr old. He was out with her for a Christmas party 1 month before my daughter was born. He was running around with her for a long time.
The judge could care less because the children were safe and being cared for. He was looking at what he said was the best interest of the children and as long as they were being fed, kept safe and sheltered, he didnt care what my ex husband did. His affair did not deem him an unfit parent.
2006-10-04 15:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no parental rights, so that you does no longer prefer to teach that she is "undeserving." it really is the incorrect legal attitude right here. you'll could teach that your ex is undeserving by skill of allowing her to come back to his living house and do drugs at the same time as your baby is there. And to attempt this, you'll opt for information that she easily is there, and doing drugs and stuff. yet in the adventure that they are separated, and your ex does no longer have her round, because she isn't bodily there, then no matter if she is a foul man or woman he once became married to will be irrelevant. it might probable also be irrelevant if she is totally sparkling now. as long as there is not any reason that can make the living house undeserving, or your ex undeserving, there is not any consider digging up irrelevant dirt.
2016-11-26 03:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that they might because she is not caring for her children. You should not be responsible for HER children. That is their father's thing to be responsible for... I commend you for doing the right thing (there aren't many guys out there like that) You should look into getting a divorce ASAP and get custody of your daughter because in my eyes, she is unfit. She is the mother and she is soley responsible (although you are the father), she is not being a fit mother and can have her children taken away. The same thing happened to my cousin in Californa- he won custody of their daughter.
2006-10-04 15:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by milkytwix87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she can be considered an unfit mother. Try to down load what she is doing as proof. Good luck, your a good father.
2006-10-04 15:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your state. Here in Michigan, we have no-fault divorce.
The only way her behavior can influence the custody is if she leaves the children alone, or neglects them while she has possession of them.
You have to check with your state laws. In my state, sleeping around is not a black mark on parental rights.
2006-10-04 15:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no unfortunatly not, that hasn't much to do with mothering in the courts eyes, it will be about financial support and home and setup, stuff like that
2006-10-04 15:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt it. If you have a problem with this tho, tell her your not going to help her out.
2006-10-04 15:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋