I'm never happy anymore.... what should i do?

Question

seriously! this has been the worst year ever! i dont no y... im just sad all the time. but i put on a act so everybody thinks that i am always happy, but im never happy. ever. even when i laugh, im not really laughing i just dont want to make anybody else sad. what can i do to b happy? trust me, this is way behond eating chocolate to become better

Answer 1

i feel your pain. literally. im depressed to... all i can say is to get help from somebody... like a friend you really trust or your parents or a therapist. sadly, if i tell my parents they will freak, and my friends are good friends and they will laugh at me... but yours are probobly better. just hang in there. just know your not alone. that helps.

Answer 2

I do not know much about your age or the causes of your sadness. I will share with you a couple of things. This has been a very difficult and sad time for me since my divorce (2 years) I have tried to date and there has been much disappointment with that. And the trials that I have also had to endure seem to be more than what I should have to. You know what I mean?

Anyway, I got out of myself last Friday. I saw a less fortunate person than myself and gave her money. I had to come up with some lame excuse for just handing her money and did not want to tell her that my heart broke because her shoes were falling apart. So, I said that I always give a tip to the baggers at the supermarket.

The end result actually lifted me out of a really down state and the gratitude that I felt as a result of my generosity was overwhelming.

In addition to that, I have been taking baths in an auyervedic (sp?) bath oil with rose for softening my heart.

And exercising my butt off to lift my spirits.

Please be well and accept my energy as healing to you as you begin your journey of peace and contentment.

We will not ever be elated or ecstatic all of the time. Look to nuture you loving and nuturing heart and soul and give to the universe. It will return the love and nuturing in magnificent ways.

Peace

Answer 3

Get outside more and connect to nature. You may have health issues that are affecting your mental state. You can go to the drug store and begin taking a remarkable herb called St. John's Wort...side effect free if you have no prescriptions you currently take. After about 10 days you will feel so much better. Try to get out for fresh air and sunshine and write in a journal. Everybody gets the blues, and if you have a lot of them, you must take steps to pull yourself up. Also, I know this might upset you but every since I adopted this philosophy, I have been a happy person for at LEAST 88% of the time: Happiness is a decision. I decide to be happy. Period. Don't look outside of yourself, only inside. Feel better, honey bunny!!!
~Sleek

Answer 4

i understand you.
i experience and do as you do. fake happiness so people don't know. I've been chronically sad my whole life. almost 60 years. just can not get out of it. but I function well in society. was married for many years have grown children i relate to well. I never miss a days work. get along well with everyone. don't have any enemies but do not have any real friends either. always very sad.it is really ridiculous because I realize I have a better life than most people in the world. but i am always sad. I do not want to take drugs. I am very positive about eveyone elses life. but not mine. I am interested to hear how other reply to you. good luck

Answer 5

I know what you mean; sometimes you feel like you just do the same things every day, nothing new to look forward to, and some new problem comes up every day. It's very discouraging. I have had times like that, too, when I wake up sad in the morning.

Lately, I've decided to go on sort of a health kick, and that kind of gives me something new and different to work on every day. Long-term projects are always a good way to keep you interested in life.

Find something that interests you, and create a long-term project for yourself. That will keep you from dwelling on how sad you are, hopefully.

I♥♫→mia☼☺†

Answer 6

Wow... I've only been in your place only once in my life, and I can say from experience it's a scary place to be! I felt like I wanted to scream and say, doesn't anyone understand why I'm feeling so sad??? And there was nothing I or anyone else could do to snap me out of it either! Finally I went to see my family doctor. (This was after months of trying to 'snap out of it'.) She confirmed it... I was depressed. Me??? The happiest girl in the world?? Depressed?? But I was! I was depressed, AND scared! But I will promise you, it WILL get better! I have never gone through another depression again in my life, thankfully! But it's real and it's serious when it's happening to you, especially when you feel like you can't make yourself feel better no matter what you do, and when no chocolate, no shopping, no nothing will help! My old wise doctor gave me a wierd piece of advice, or so I thought at the time.... She told me to get myself into a routine. Focus on doing something, anything. Focus on going for a walk in the morning. Focus on getting showered, and going to work, etc. Focus on outward routine things rather than the inner feelings of sadness that had overtaken my life. While I would never suggest something you should do without talking to your doctor first, I will tell you that this little tiny bit of advice from an old doctor helped me to get out of the depression I was in, and has helped me many times since when I've felt overwhelmed by something going on in my life.

Answer 7

Well, you are on the right track trying to fight it. Get plenty of exercise, fresh air and drink a lot of water each day. Take a multivitamin with food. Don't skip a meal or go hungry, but don't eat junk or fast food or anything that has a lot of preservatives in it. You may have to find someone you can talk to to get to the bottom of what's troubling you. What do you like to do, what are your pleasures. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself like volunteering. Always make a point to look your best--you don't have to have fancy things, but make sure your hair is shampooed, that you shower every day and that you don't wear nasty clothes. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

Have you ever heard of Emotions Anonymous? It's a spin-off of Alcoholics Anonymous, and uses the same 12-step program. They helped me a lot when I needed it. So take a capsule of St. John's Wort (my good faith effort to have a good attitude) and look up EA in the phone book. You may be very pleasantly surprised.

If self help don't do it, try professional help. I call that a last resort.

Answer 9

Please reach out to anyone, a trusted friend, relative, or Dr. You are suffering from depression. It is a hard thing to deal with alone. You can seek meds from a doctor or counseling. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! There really are people who can help. People LOVE you and will miss you dearly. This is a very touchy situation. You can even call toll free hot-lines for help. DO NOT take this lightly.

I know you feel light you are looking in a dark tunnel and there's no daylight to find your way out. But, there is. It will get better.

Answer 10

When ever you get depressed you should first do something to cheer yourself up, like singing, or visiting a friend, or calling a friend. And secondly you should also pray to God to help you with this sadness. I'm not sure if your religious, but you should also pray to the Archangel, St. Lechitiel. He is the Archangel that strengthened Our Lord in the Garden of Getsemane. Pray this prayer to this great and mighty Archangel and he will assist you, "Holy St. Lechitiel, help me, strengthen me and raise me up again". This Archangel has such great power and might.

Answer 11

To me it sounds like you might need to talk to your Dr... because you stated an exact time this has been happening... which leads me to think you could depressed... your doing pretty good... still having the ability to fake it a smile... leads me to think it's mild... but you need to find a way to get back to your old self... don't go another minute faking it... Bad things can happen to you and trigger depression... then nothing can happen and still end up depressed... Hate seeing anyone suffer... please get some help.
Maybe talk to a trusted friend and see if they've noticed the changes in your moods... Good Luck